thats what i said, learn from the past, but being sucked into the emotional maelstrom of past sorrows is a trap too-- this is a subtle one so think about it.

now my question is how the fuck did you lose $200 after watching be kind rewind? $200? doing what?

i don't think about regrets. it'll just be a waste of emotions and time if i did. i was never into drugs or heavy use of alcohol or anything that will make me think i have lost something. i have lost good friendships, but that's just a part of growing up.

well today i regret not buying this parka that was on sale. a few days after i saw it the coat was gone.

not dwelling on regrets is different from denying regret altogether.

I think that regrets shape us much more than the good things in life.

yeah i'm not denying that i have regrets, but it'll be a waste of my time if i sit around and dwell on them. i could be doing something else more constructive. well, aside from looking at this messageboard.

those underwear scare the shit out of me

you don't like the shaq manties?

I lost my wallet....I don't know how. I bought popcorn and I guess I must've lost it somewhere between buying popcorn and goin' to bed that night.

I'd agree with this, to the extent that regret is an important part of the way we develop and shape ourselves. Without regret, we cannot empathise, feel and even love.

[insert standard reply: 666-butthole_surfers/regret]

tell yr mom.

uhler where did you find that underwear? i want some

i stole them from my son.

That kinda makes me me wonder all kinds of strange things about you...please say you're kidding.

OK to the real point of the thread....

I have a TON of regret...

If I had actually PLAYED the old guitar my dad gave me instead of getting hooked on video games, I might be more confident/proficent on the instrument today, plus I might've have been exposed to the great 90s music I love now at an earlier age, when it was most relevant to everyone else.

If I had turned around and paid attention when there was a girl screaming my name down the hall in junior high (actually it's more of a case I didn't realize she was talking to me; she was calling my first name and most people called me by my last name in those days), I might've had a real relationship-or at least gotten laid (maybe not, but I'll never know now).

If I had started working out at an earlier age, I might be more muscular now. On that same subject, if I hadn't been so picky with what I ate when I was younger, I might not have been so scrawny for so long.

If I had gone to college, maybe I'd have more friends, have played music with more people, have better job options, and have had more interesting experiences to look back upon.

That's actually pretty much it...slowly I am finally beginning to realize what's done is done and it's a useless waste of time to dwell upon the past. Still, I can't help but wonder sometimes if I could've had a better life up to now if I had just done things a bit differently (i.e. take more risks and live a little)...

If you can find at least one reason each day to not go back, it can be the start of a positive change. At least from where you are now, you can see a lot of outcomes that have had a negative effect on your life. You have that perspective. I think when you're still deep in it, its a lot harder to see that.

I've never had a habbit that has reached that far into my life. My self destructive nature for wahtever reason hasn't chosen heavy drugs and has avoided the bad choice of drugs + alcohol combination OD a few times through dumb luck? I hate to think what I'd be like if I ever started on heroin. I used to take a lot of codeine, valium, and alcohol, plus a bit of pot to get through the day, on top of on and off taking my perscription paxil. My life would stop, I think, if I ever started on herion. I'm lucky. ...But I've had friends who have come pretty close to fucking it all up.. cocaine and heroin are fucking noxious. The realisation of how much damage you're doing to yourself, and actually caring, is a big step.

You're still alive, which is a lot to have coming out of a smack habbit.. and you've managed to hold on to some friends by the sounds of it. These things can be enough to pull you out, just need to have the strength.

Hope you can manage it, I really do. There are lots of people out there that can help you too. You should ask, if you havent already. There's nothing I wouldnt have done for my friends to help them, when they needed it, if they asked.

The hardest part from my perspective, is that after this, you'll end up making friends who've had the habbit, and it can be pretty magnetic in trying to draw you back in. As hard as it is, its probably better to stay away from anyone who is remotely inclined to start again. If you can. Again, I've seen friends use.. just one more time.. after making new friends that either still do, or used to have a smack habbit.

good luck

you said it, and if you see your mother later tell her "SATAN! SATAN! SATAN! SATAN!"

This intro is scaring ( I thought the album was all blank ).

not that there's a huge point turning back in anger and regretting shit from the past, it's just that the past is hard to delimit from.

do i sound like yoda?

so basically, i think we may be the exact same person

now thats confusing, dude...

actually i was kinda wrong, the working out part didn't apply to me, i've always been ripped

rather ripped, y' know