how do you know when its time - Page 2

greedrex · 01.29.2009, 06:04 PM

oh cuz that's common now, ok. I though that had been a lucky one off.
i have to do it myself. It's good gym.

atsonicpark · 01.29.2009, 06:07 PM

My thing with girls, and if you ever look at every girl I've dated.. they all have looked completely different... I don't have a "Type", I just want a completely different looking/acting person. I just want something new!!

01.29.2009, 06:10 PM

progressive taste in women

EVOLghost · 01.29.2009, 06:14 PM

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...because do you know how long it's going to take to convince another girl to stick her finger in my ass?

I'm just kidding, but.......

haha....I had to hold myself from laughing too loud.

atsonicpark · 01.29.2009, 06:14 PM

yeah i'm a prog dater.

cars_willkillyou · 01.29.2009, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by hypertonic

Hahha oh jesus...

I'm pretty picky about girls tho. I was single 6 years before this relationship. Have to definitely have a special spark for me.

I was discussing this just last night with a female friend of mine. the topic was what are the top 3 qualities we look for in a mate. I was trying to describe that "spark," and I think its one of those things that can't easily be described with language.

As far as progressive dating is concerned, I am the same way. I definitely dont have a "type;" however, I tend to be strongly attracted to intellectual, deep-thinking, women. In my experience thus far, these women tend to also be the most insane.

Dont get me wrong though. I love shallow and/or easy girls.

atsonicpark · 01.29.2009, 09:36 PM

On the outside, I like girls with short hair, a smooth little ass, and tattoos and/or piercings. Basically, if a chick looks like a boy but has some extremely defining female features (ass, tits) I'm like whoaaaa. On the inside, she has to be open minded and funny and easy to talk to. Of course.

Not too bad.

phoenix · 01.30.2009, 03:39 AM

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Originally Posted by greedrex

were you not talking about having a baby not so long ago, like a couple of weeks ago in the 2009 resolutions thread?

yeh. maternal type feelings. This does of course rely on me first having a stable relationship. So, if there isnt one anymore, then I wont have a kid any time soon.

When it's good, I feel safe and comfortable and content with my partner, and as though really I couldnt be like that with anyone else... But, I know that comes with any relationship that lasts, so I dont think its a valid reason to include in the 'pro's' column. Sigh.

phoenix · 01.30.2009, 03:43 AM

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Originally Posted by cars_willkillyou

I was discussing this just last night with a female friend of mine. the topic was what are the top 3 qualities we look for in a mate. I was trying to describe that "spark," and I think its one of those things that can't easily be described with language.

a HINT of psychotic? This has always seemed to prove to be strangely alluring to men, in my poor mental health experience.

acousticrock87 · 01.30.2009, 03:54 AM

While of course, like you said, the decision cannot and should not lie in our hands, if you're asking "how many time do we break up before..." it sounds bad. Not that I have any idea of the dynamic you guys have, in my experience it's actually very difficult to see the futility in habitual "break ups." It's always kind of obvious in retrospect, but at the time my mind is thinking, "Well signs say we should break up...but what if we shouldn't?" Which makes no sense, really.

Needless to say, those past relationships eventually ended, and I'm obviously glad of that now. So there must be some bias in that.

My default opinion is that if you're asking the question, the answer is most likely yes--it's time. If you're destined to marry them, I know a ton of people who marry people they broke up with for months. So if it's that strong of a relationship, it would stand a real break-up.

Sonic Youth 37 · 01.30.2009, 03:56 AM

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Originally Posted by phoenix

a HINT of psychotic? This has always seemed to prove to be strangely alluring to men, in my poor mental health experience.

Yes, it is alluring to some.

terriblecanyons · 01.30.2009, 04:21 AM

When I break up with someone, I just go right out and tell them I don't want to be with them anymore. In ending a sort of kind of relationship, I just stop talking to them. Completely. For at least three months.
Call me cold, but it works.

acousticrock87 · 01.30.2009, 04:23 AM

Yeah, I always have a month or two of 0 contact. Three is probably better. I think it's unhealthy not to.

terriblecanyons · 01.30.2009, 04:24 AM

The part where I begin to faulter is when they call when I'm drunk.
Cause, and a lot of you know this by now, I enjoy talking on the phone while drunk.

phoenix · 01.30.2009, 04:25 AM

lots of guys get their sensitive side out when drunk.

alteredcourse · 01.30.2009, 04:26 AM

Al shabbray has some wise things to spread.

Flophouse, it sucks that you have to deal with that shit right now. But you know, with as little as you've shared about the relationship here, it sounds like you will actually be o.k.

Do what cars_willkillyou if you want to live life in a dream world where things dont have consequences until they actually do ten fold and youre fucked. Try blocking the number of a girl who desperately needs to tell you that youre now the proud father of a cluster of herpes.

phoenix · 01.30.2009, 04:29 AM

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Try blocking the number of a girl who desperately needs to tell you that youre now the proud father of a cluster of herpes.

ew. I am proudly STI free.

Hopefully the emotional confusion will clear up though/

terriblecanyons · 01.30.2009, 04:30 AM

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Originally Posted by phoenix

lots of guys get their sensitive side out when drunk.

I hope you aren't implying that I'm a dude.

phoenix · 01.30.2009, 04:31 AM

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Originally Posted by terriblecanyons

I hope you aren't implying that I'm a dude.

you're not? oops. sorry about that?

alteredcourse · 01.30.2009, 04:31 AM

S'ok though now really, you can always send them a hallmark.

01.29.2009, 06:04 PM	#21
greedrex invito al cielo Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: in yr fotobukit Posts: 6,588	oh cuz that's common now, ok. I though that had been a lucky one off. i have to do it myself. It's good gym. __________________ Greed Recordings bandcamp ~The Rex~, stalkin' yr shit since 2008.
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atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	My thing with girls, and if you ever look at every girl I've dated.. they all have looked completely different... I don't have a "Type", I just want a completely different looking/acting person. I just want something new!! __________________
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01.29.2009, 06:10 PM	#23
al shabbray Posts: n/a	progressive taste in women
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atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	yeah i'm a prog dater. __________________
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01.29.2009, 09:36 PM	#27
atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	On the outside, I like girls with short hair, a smooth little ass, and tattoos and/or piercings. Basically, if a chick looks like a boy but has some extremely defining female features (ass, tits) I'm like whoaaaa. On the inside, she has to be open minded and funny and easy to talk to. Of course. Not too bad. __________________
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01.30.2009, 03:54 AM	#30
acousticrock87 invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 5,515	While of course, like you said, the decision cannot and should not lie in our hands, if you're asking "how many time do we break up before..." it sounds bad. Not that I have any idea of the dynamic you guys have, in my experience it's actually very difficult to see the futility in habitual "break ups." It's always kind of obvious in retrospect, but at the time my mind is thinking, "Well signs say we should break up...but what if we shouldn't?" Which makes no sense, really. Needless to say, those past relationships eventually ended, and I'm obviously glad of that now. So there must be some bias in that. My default opinion is that if you're asking the question, the answer is most likely yes--it's time. If you're destined to marry them, I know a ton of people who marry people they broke up with for months. So if it's that strong of a relationship, it would stand a real break-up.
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01.30.2009, 04:21 AM	#32
terriblecanyons invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: the land where large fuzzy dice still hang proudly like testicles from rear-view mirrors Posts: 5,949	When I break up with someone, I just go right out and tell them I don't want to be with them anymore. In ending a sort of kind of relationship, I just stop talking to them. Completely. For at least three months. Call me cold, but it works.
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01.30.2009, 04:23 AM	#33
acousticrock87 invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 5,515	Yeah, I always have a month or two of 0 contact. Three is probably better. I think it's unhealthy not to.
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01.30.2009, 04:24 AM	#34
terriblecanyons invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: the land where large fuzzy dice still hang proudly like testicles from rear-view mirrors Posts: 5,949	The part where I begin to faulter is when they call when I'm drunk. Cause, and a lot of you know this by now, I enjoy talking on the phone while drunk.
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01.30.2009, 04:25 AM	#35
phoenix invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: the future where it's hot and dark Posts: 5,926	lots of guys get their sensitive side out when drunk. __________________ tiny and lost.
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01.30.2009, 04:26 AM	#36
alteredcourse expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,503	Al shabbray has some wise things to spread. Flophouse, it sucks that you have to deal with that shit right now. But you know, with as little as you've shared about the relationship here, it sounds like you will actually be o.k. Do what cars_willkillyou if you want to live life in a dream world where things dont have consequences until they actually do ten fold and youre fucked. Try blocking the number of a girl who desperately needs to tell you that youre now the proud father of a cluster of herpes.
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01.30.2009, 04:31 AM	#40
alteredcourse expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,503	S'ok though now really, you can always send them a hallmark.
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