So I'm single for the first time in 3 years - Page 2

phoenix · 02.10.2008, 05:47 AM

I think the best thing to do is really just move the fuck away from it all and get out there and do whatever seems to be appropriate or feel right. Go with your heart to lead you into good feelings, and let go of all notions of 'but if he/she were here..'

Without being a dick, you say you dont know what to do? Did you not ever do anything for yourself while you were together?

Norma J · 02.10.2008, 06:12 AM

Have you ever lived with your partner?

I'm not talking lunch time kisses behind the toilet block here.

To be in a relationship you have to be in it with your heart and soul, sure you do stuff by yourself, but your always thinking of the other and do whatever you can together and you're connected, other wise you're only in a relationship by the term 'relationship'. Anyone can say it, it's a matter of doing it. that's all love is.

pbradley · 02.10.2008, 06:38 AM

Norma J, would you find it offensive or agreeable if I call you a romantic?

!@#$%! · 02.10.2008, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Norma J

I'm heart broken and I can't even remember what I used to do.

oh shit man. so sorry.

what the fuck happened?

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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

It'll get better. Don't be down on yourself.

ha ha, you hallmark card.

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Originally Posted by flophousefloozie

Sounds similar to what I'm talking about.
Well, I know how it feels.

Some advice for anyone in this sort of situation:

"Loneliness and cheeseburgars are a dangerous mix."

now, that, that is valuable advice

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Originally Posted by pbradley

Sounds like you need to drown your sorrow and celebrate your freedom by drinking with friends.

i don't know-- drinking when bummed out can lead to problems

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Originally Posted by Norma J

Have you ever lived with your partner?

I'm not talking lunch time kisses behind the toilet block here.

To be in a relationship you have to be in it with your heart and soul, sure you do stuff by yourself, but your always thinking of the other and do whatever you can together and you're connected, other wise you're only in a relationship by the term 'relationship'. Anyone can say it, it's a matter of doing it. that's all love is.

dammit man, are you sure it's not something that cannot be worked out? im not trying to pry here, but long term relationships have their ups and downs and it's not always a party, it gets difficult at times, but you can work things out... not sure if in your case it can be done? but you can still try...

Everyneurotic · 02.10.2008, 12:57 PM

nothing to add here except that if someone actually knows a speedy way of recovering from this, please let me know.

ohhh, don't try to date someone until you feel you are ready.

nomadicfollower · 02.10.2008, 01:06 PM

My girl stopped talking to me.
I said good riddance.
Love is like a case of anthrax.
Now you feel it, huh?

king_buzzo · 02.10.2008, 02:19 PM

im always single...

✌➬ · 02.10.2008, 02:38 PM

Sorry to hear that Norma, well I have not been in that situation so I can't really tell you much but to march on.

cryptowonderdruginvogue · 02.10.2008, 03:28 PM

this thread's got me down

king_buzzo · 02.10.2008, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by king_buzzo

im always single...

thats because im a loser.

pbradley · 02.10.2008, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

i don't know-- drinking when bummed out can lead to problems

I don't know how your friends are but I imagine that they're suppose to be there to comfort you in hard times. That's why I mentioned them.

Then I suppose there are enough borderline sociopaths on this board that can't see friends as anything beyond means.

lalie · 02.10.2008, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Norma J

To be in a relationship you have to be in it with your heart and soul, sure you do stuff by yourself, but your always thinking of the other and do whatever you can together and you're connected, other wise you're only in a relationship by the term 'relationship'. Anyone can say it, it's a matter of doing it. that's all love is.

Yes that's what it is.
I hope you'll feel better.

phoenix · 02.10.2008, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Norma J

Have you ever lived with your partner?

I'm not talking lunch time kisses behind the toilet block here.

To be in a relationship you have to be in it with your heart and soul, sure you do stuff by yourself, but your always thinking of the other and do whatever you can together and you're connected, other wise you're only in a relationship by the term 'relationship'. Anyone can say it, it's a matter of doing it. that's all love is.

um, yeh I am right now.

I still do stuff without my partner sometimes. Because I'm still me, even though we live togther.

I kind of want to respond to a lot of what you've said, but i can understand that yr hurting and not meaning to be so..
'my way is the only way'

contrelefuckingsexisme · 02.10.2008, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Norma J

I'm heart broken and I can't even remember what I used to do.

i'm sorry.
i've always been single
and i'm kind of heartbroken because of that...yet i'm scared of giving any guy a chance.
i just don't know what to do with myself.

SpectralJulianIsNotDead · 02.10.2008, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Norma J

I'm heart broken and I can't even remember what I used to do.

Don't rush into another relationship.

girlgun · 02.10.2008, 08:25 PM

i'm sorry, norma. i can't even imagine what that's like. i'm having a hard enough time dealing with losing my best friend after 3 years which obviously isn't even a romantic relationship.

i haven't spoken to him in 3 weeks.... after talking on the phone for hours everyday for 3 years and hanging out all the time. i feel very heartbroken as well, but i think i'm getting better. good riddance to bad rubbish... i do believe it's true, even though sometimes i have to remind myself of this.

i'm just so sorry, but you'll be okay in time.

Norma J · 02.11.2008, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

oh shit man. so sorry.

what the fuck happened?

i don't know-- drinking when bummed out can lead to problems

dammit man, are you sure it's not something that cannot be worked out? im not trying to pry here, but long term relationships have their ups and downs and it's not always a party, it gets difficult at times, but you can work things out... not sure if in your case it can be done? but you can still try...

It was somewhat of a matual decision, but only on my behalf because of late she doesn't look at me the same as she used to. And yeah, I think it is something time will heal, for both of us and there is a huge chance of getting back together down the track... hopefully.

We still talk and are still bestfriends and love eachother, but I guess the best way to put it is, we don't argue anymore. We used to argue about certain things, little things because we were so passionate about eachother, but lately it's like we're too lazy to argue. That may seem weird to others, but I think it makes sense. We're actually getting along better now than we have for the last 6 to 12 months. Which is the only happiness I'm taking from all of this.

We wont lose eachother from our lives, but I dread the time she finds another guy (if we don't get back together), and I kinda dread the time I meet another girl.

Ps - This board really is a good board full of good people.

Norma J · 02.11.2008, 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by pbradley

Norma J, would you find it offensive or agreeable if I call you a romantic?

haha. I've never put too much thought into it, but I guess I am.

uhler · 02.11.2008, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Norma J

I'm heart broken and I can't even remember what I used to do.

do you have a hard time listening to music that she really liked or that you enjoyed together? when my first long term relationship came to an end, it was hard for me to listen to what she really liked for awhile. i'm just glad she wasn't much of a minor threat fan.

✌➬ · 02.11.2008, 02:42 AM

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Originally Posted by uhler

do you have a hard time listening to music that she really liked or that you enjoyed together? when my first long term relationship came to an end, it was hard for me to listen to what she really liked for awhile. i'm just glad she wasn't much of a minor threat fan.

If that is the case, I don't care if I listen to another Elton John cd.

02.10.2008, 05:47 AM	#21
phoenix invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: the future where it's hot and dark Posts: 5,926	I think the best thing to do is really just move the fuck away from it all and get out there and do whatever seems to be appropriate or feel right. Go with your heart to lead you into good feelings, and let go of all notions of 'but if he/she were here..' Without being a dick, you say you dont know what to do? Did you not ever do anything for yourself while you were together? __________________ tiny and lost.
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Norma J invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Orstralia Posts: 4,917	Have you ever lived with your partner? I'm not talking lunch time kisses behind the toilet block here. To be in a relationship you have to be in it with your heart and soul, sure you do stuff by yourself, but your always thinking of the other and do whatever you can together and you're connected, other wise you're only in a relationship by the term 'relationship'. Anyone can say it, it's a matter of doing it. that's all love is. __________________ I want girls with new-wave hair-doos
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pbradley invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: SoKo Posts: 10,621	Norma J, would you find it offensive or agreeable if I call you a romantic?
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Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	nothing to add here except that if someone actually knows a speedy way of recovering from this, please let me know. ohhh, don't try to date someone until you feel you are ready. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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nomadicfollower invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: North America Posts: 2,672	My girl stopped talking to me. I said good riddance. Love is like a case of anthrax. Now you feel it, huh?
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king_buzzo invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 11,110	im always single...
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✌➬ invito al cielo Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: ιλ Posts: 5,754	Sorry to hear that Norma, well I have not been in that situation so I can't really tell you much but to march on. __________________ We Kill Homosexuals!!!
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cryptowonderdruginvogue invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: the party Posts: 10,281	this thread's got me down
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02.10.2008, 08:25 PM	#36
girlgun invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,906	i'm sorry, norma. i can't even imagine what that's like. i'm having a hard enough time dealing with losing my best friend after 3 years which obviously isn't even a romantic relationship. i haven't spoken to him in 3 weeks.... after talking on the phone for hours everyday for 3 years and hanging out all the time. i feel very heartbroken as well, but i think i'm getting better. good riddance to bad rubbish... i do believe it's true, even though sometimes i have to remind myself of this. i'm just so sorry, but you'll be okay in time.
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