What if you began a serious relationship with someone..

artsygrrl · 07.28.2009, 10:35 AM

..and you really wanted this person in your life. How much of your past would you be willing to share (if he/she asked). What, if anything, would you sort of want to "save" for later in the relationship? Are there things wouldn't ever want he/she to know?
I know I have done some shit that I hope will never come back to haunt me.
Blah.

Derek · 07.28.2009, 10:37 AM

Generally I ask my girlfriend things I want to know and then regret being told it. Though sometimes she's admitted to just telling me things I want to hear and that makes me more angry actually.

Though with me... I've never really did any regretful things.

SONIC GAIL · 07.28.2009, 10:52 AM

The only way to have a seriopus relationship is to be clean about EVERYTHING up front. I have been with my man for 13 years now and believe me everything comes out in the wash, and it is better to deal with it now than later. I did alot I was ashamed of in the past, but if it is something he needs to know I will shamelfully devulge it all.

atsonicpark · 07.28.2009, 11:02 AM

I have always been completely, brutally, 100% honest about everything I've ever done, in history. This has gained me much respect, as well as alienated everyone around me at certain points. I do feel that you don't have to really volunteer every little detail... but if you get asked about it, you might as well be honest.

Lamont Cranston · 07.28.2009, 11:22 AM

So you wont be telling her about that time you shot a man in Reno just to watch him die?

floatingslowly · 07.28.2009, 11:27 AM

I'm a fan of full disclosure (if asked).

otherwise, any relationship you start will be built on shakey ground.

find somebody who loves you and yr faults imo.

artsygrrl · 07.28.2009, 11:48 AM

I not only watched him die, I ate his corpse.

Rob Instigator · 07.28.2009, 12:51 PM

If asked I will provide all info and details, but I never ask. as long as it does not involve the risk of police breaking down my door, (or a drug dealer/pimp looking for his money) then the past is the past and I will wait until the other person divulges what she wants to.

Dr. Eugene Felikson · 07.28.2009, 01:10 PM

There's a lotta things about me you don't know anything about, Dottie. Things you wouldn't understand. Things you couldn't understand. Things you shouldn't understand.

I don't understand.

You don't wanna get mixed up with a guy like me. I'm a loner, Dottie. A rebel. So long, Dott.

MellySingsDoom · 07.28.2009, 01:57 PM

^^^Is that Peter Hook?

Satan · 07.28.2009, 01:58 PM

"don't ask, don't tell"

Sonic Youth 37 · 07.28.2009, 02:04 PM

I believe in a goodly amount of creative omitting of details.

artsygrrl · 07.28.2009, 02:25 PM

amerikangod · 07.28.2009, 02:37 PM

I generally date children, as they're too young to have a history for me to get pissed over.

_slavo_ · 07.28.2009, 03:28 PM

you gotta keep some of your shit for yourself.
i'd feel naked if i did not have any secrets and shared everything with my partner.

terriblecanyons · 07.28.2009, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by artsygrrl

I came

atsonicpark · 07.28.2009, 04:10 PM

:the different vital=plug-ins of chemical=anthropoids I murder the BDSM_existence-code the cold-blooded disease-module of the technocrisis soul/gram that accelerated her virus that DNA=channel to acidHUMANIX. =in the surrender-site of the reptilian form of the drug embryo where was switching the vital-junk scream made of retro-ADAM that accesses the techno-junkies' biocapturing form ultra=machinary eyeball device hunting for the grotesque is jointed to hydromaniac body....
:the blood of data=mutants the vital-junk tragedy-ROM of retro-ADAM....rave the techno-junkies' trash sensor soul/gram that flip on to the acidHUMANIX_murder region that jointed the body of the artificial sun LOAD like the cadaver feti eyeball of the dogs her human body pill crime system that is covered and hyperlink to the that modem=heart fuck PLAY.

ur rave brain the genomics hunting for the grotesque engine of the parasite guy that I invade functions the criminal body system that was infected HIV of the drug embryo that accelerates rape=VTR of her acidHUMANIX_soul/gram virus so....to the BDSM circuit made of retro-ADAM that was biocaptured to hydromaniac human body pill planetary digital=vamp. The ultra=machinary violence area of boy roid nature is streamed with the existence-code of her era respiration-byte....
:she I am infected the BDSM_existence-code that chemical=anthropoids escape with the cadaver feti eyeball streaming of the artificial sun that inoculates the acidHUMANIX_murder-protocol that was canceled so is output....the blue masses of flesh of the sky are emulated to the criminal brain system of the era respiration-byte of the drug embryo made of retro-ADAM. =>the terror fear=cell that dogs hyperlinked is attacked....the chloroform murder gimmick of boy roid nature accelerates in the genomics hunting for the grotesque area of the human body pill....blast the HYPE_vaio-code of the cadaver city.

Zombie Robot · 07.28.2009, 04:23 PM

my relationships have generally been based on a need to know basis. if they need to know i will tell them the truth if asked directly. if i need to know they better tell me the truth or suffer my wrath.

amerikangod · 07.28.2009, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by _slavo_

i'd feel naked if i did not have any secrets and shared everything with my partner.

So be proud and naked! Stand tall, hands at your hips, chin up, dick swaying mightily in the wind.

pbradley · 07.28.2009, 05:59 PM

My deep dark secret is that I like to pretend that I have a sordid past.

07.28.2009, 10:35 AM	#1
artsygrrl the end of the ugly Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan, USA Posts: 961	..and you really wanted this person in your life. How much of your past would you be willing to share (if he/she asked). What, if anything, would you sort of want to "save" for later in the relationship? Are there things wouldn't ever want he/she to know? I know I have done some shit that I hope will never come back to haunt me. Blah.
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07.28.2009, 10:37 AM	#2
Derek invito al cielo Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 8,095	Generally I ask my girlfriend things I want to know and then regret being told it. Though sometimes she's admitted to just telling me things I want to hear and that makes me more angry actually. Though with me... I've never really did any regretful things.
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07.28.2009, 10:52 AM	#3
SONIC GAIL invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: I moved from hillbilly Florida to hillbilly Alabama Posts: 3,723	The only way to have a seriopus relationship is to be clean about EVERYTHING up front. I have been with my man for 13 years now and believe me everything comes out in the wash, and it is better to deal with it now than later. I did alot I was ashamed of in the past, but if it is something he needs to know I will shamelfully devulge it all. __________________
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07.28.2009, 11:02 AM	#4
atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	I have always been completely, brutally, 100% honest about everything I've ever done, in history. This has gained me much respect, as well as alienated everyone around me at certain points. I do feel that you don't have to really volunteer every little detail... but if you get asked about it, you might as well be honest. __________________
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07.28.2009, 11:22 AM	#5
Lamont Cranston 100% Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 725	So you wont be telling her about that time you shot a man in Reno just to watch him die? __________________ This is how it will all end: not with floods, earthquakes, falling comets or gigantic crabs roaming the Earth. No, doomsday will start simply out of indifference.
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07.28.2009, 11:27 AM	#6
floatingslowly invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 21,165	I'm a fan of full disclosure (if asked). otherwise, any relationship you start will be built on shakey ground. find somebody who loves you and yr faults imo.
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07.28.2009, 11:48 AM	#7
artsygrrl the end of the ugly Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan, USA Posts: 961	I not only watched him die, I ate his corpse.
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07.28.2009, 12:51 PM	#8
Rob Instigator invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: In the land of the Instigator Posts: 27,930	If asked I will provide all info and details, but I never ask. as long as it does not involve the risk of police breaking down my door, (or a drug dealer/pimp looking for his money) then the past is the past and I will wait until the other person divulges what she wants to. __________________ RXTT's Intellectual Journey - my new blog where I talk about all the books I read.
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07.28.2009, 01:10 PM	#9
Dr. Eugene Felikson invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 7,570	There's a lotta things about me you don't know anything about, Dottie. Things you wouldn't understand. Things you couldn't understand. Things you shouldn't understand. I don't understand. You don't wanna get mixed up with a guy like me. I'm a loner, Dottie. A rebel. So long, Dott.
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07.28.2009, 01:57 PM	#10
MellySingsDoom invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 8,662	^^^Is that Peter Hook? __________________ Snow on Easter Sunday - Jesus Christ in reverse.
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07.28.2009, 01:58 PM	#11
Satan invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: noo yawk Posts: 6,331	"don't ask, don't tell" __________________ "I love meth." - batreleaser
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07.28.2009, 02:04 PM	#12
Sonic Youth 37 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: if there is a bright spot in the universe, the farthest point from it Posts: 9,443	I believe in a goodly amount of creative omitting of details. __________________ "One: Where's the fife? and Two: Gimme the fife."
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07.28.2009, 02:25 PM	#13
artsygrrl the end of the ugly Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan, USA Posts: 961
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07.28.2009, 02:37 PM	#14
amerikangod invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,761	I generally date children, as they're too young to have a history for me to get pissed over. __________________
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07.28.2009, 03:28 PM	#15
_slavo_ invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Ðîññèÿ Posts: 10,886	you gotta keep some of your shit for yourself. i'd feel naked if i did not have any secrets and shared everything with my partner. __________________ you're the boy that can enjoy invisibility
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07.28.2009, 04:10 PM	#17
atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	:the different vital=plug-ins of chemical=anthropoids I murder the BDSM_existence-code the cold-blooded disease-module of the technocrisis soul/gram that accelerated her virus that DNA=channel to acidHUMANIX. =in the surrender-site of the reptilian form of the drug embryo where was switching the vital-junk scream made of retro-ADAM that accesses the techno-junkies' biocapturing form ultra=machinary eyeball device hunting for the grotesque is jointed to hydromaniac body.... :the blood of data=mutants the vital-junk tragedy-ROM of retro-ADAM....rave the techno-junkies' trash sensor soul/gram that flip on to the acidHUMANIX_murder region that jointed the body of the artificial sun LOAD like the cadaver feti eyeball of the dogs her human body pill crime system that is covered and hyperlink to the that modem=heart fuck PLAY. ur rave brain the genomics hunting for the grotesque engine of the parasite guy that I invade functions the criminal body system that was infected HIV of the drug embryo that accelerates rape=VTR of her acidHUMANIX_soul/gram virus so....to the BDSM circuit made of retro-ADAM that was biocaptured to hydromaniac human body pill planetary digital=vamp. The ultra=machinary violence area of boy roid nature is streamed with the existence-code of her era respiration-byte.... :she I am infected the BDSM_existence-code that chemical=anthropoids escape with the cadaver feti eyeball streaming of the artificial sun that inoculates the acidHUMANIX_murder-protocol that was canceled so is output....the blue masses of flesh of the sky are emulated to the criminal brain system of the era respiration-byte of the drug embryo made of retro-ADAM. =>the terror fear=cell that dogs hyperlinked is attacked....the chloroform murder gimmick of boy roid nature accelerates in the genomics hunting for the grotesque area of the human body pill....blast the HYPE_vaio-code of the cadaver city. __________________
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07.28.2009, 04:23 PM	#18
Zombie Robot expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Dead Space Posts: 1,304	my relationships have generally been based on a need to know basis. if they need to know i will tell them the truth if asked directly. if i need to know they better tell me the truth or suffer my wrath. __________________ "Seductive. Voluptuous. Ravenous. Beware of the Zombie Robot -- Creature that roams the night breaking men's hearts and then eats their brains for breakfast!"
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07.28.2009, 05:59 PM	#20
pbradley invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: SoKo Posts: 10,621	My deep dark secret is that I like to pretend that I have a sordid past.
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