breaking up with your best friend....

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 12:53 PM

have you ever had to do it? why?

i'm going to have to. it's making me old. it's making me feel bad. he always tears me down and (no exaggerating) has probably said a total of 5 nice things to me in 3 years. i usually write it off because he's emotionally immature and a bit like dealing with a child sometimes, but it's taking it's toll.

Sheriff Rhys Chatham · 12.02.2007, 01:05 PM

Never just ended a friendship, just slowly went our own ways.

Everyneurotic · 12.02.2007, 01:29 PM

tell him he's a cunt, walk away and don't come back.

that'll be clear for him.

ps: no, i'm serious.

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Everyneurotic

tell him he's a cunt, walk away and don't come back.

that'll be clear for him.

ps: no, i'm serious.

and i know you're right. it's just not easy. i'm attached. he's my best friend.

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by girlgun

have you ever had to do it? why?

i'm going to have to. it's making me old. it's making me feel bad. he always tears me down and (no exaggerating) has probably said a total of 5 nice things to me in 3 years. i usually write it off because he's emotionally immature and a bit like dealing with a child sometimes, but it's taking it's toll.

gg, this is funny to me in a way that i cant express with words-- oh twisted brain, please let it be clear.

anyway

my question then is-- if he's immature---what was the original attraction?
and isn't it hard enough for you having to steer already a husband and a child and make them eat with knifes and forks? why do you need a 3rd burden?

anyway, this friend of mine (a woman) recently "broke up" with another friend (another woman) because after i dont know how many years (20? they know each other from childhood) she realized the other friend was a royal bitch, a cunt of galactic scale, a toxic jackass. quite a bit of drama. i heard it all. anyway, tough titties, but good riddance.

i usually just stop calling people.

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 02:16 PM

original attraction? he's super fucking funny and makes me laugh every. single. day. it's mean sense of humor too. he's also really smart. that's really about it. i learn stuff and i laugh, but i never get to say a word. he's a narcissist. i hardly ever call him. he calls me about 10 times a day. he calls to even tell me he's going to take a shit.

but you're right. you're totally right. i don't need it. i know this. just have a bitch of a time letting it go. i think it's a habit. i hate change. i've tried before, but i think i have a chance this time because he's going away for 5 months. that'll put some distance between us. despite how... not well.. he treats me... i still feel bad leaving him. then he'll have no one.

Savage Clone · 12.02.2007, 02:21 PM

I think this will probably be for the best, but I know it won't be easy for you.
I'm sorry.

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 02:26 PM

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OOIOO

i didnt say you dont need it! well not exactly. i was just thinking that he' not your friend--he's your entertainer. you just need to lower your expectations that is all-- and enjoy the giggles. think of it as your own private radio show. friends? who needs friends?

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 02:32 PM

thanks, sc.

last night was just... so typical of his emotional games. he called at 2.30 and woke me up (as well as the wife), and was so very drunk (he doesn't drink usually). he screamed deep purple into the phone for 5 minutes (which i thought was funny despite the ear pain) and then we had a good talk.. errrr i mean he talked and i played the supportive friend. the talk turned to people disappointing others and him saying "if you expect everyone will disappoint you... you won't be surprised". i said that he has plenty of people in his life who don't disappoint him. he named 2 of his male buddies. i said.. "what about me?" and he said ... "you disappoint me. you do stupid shit sometimes." i asked what i did and he changed the subject. i told him he hurt my feelings and he said "i don't think i really care". so i said "you disappoint me" and he said "you should expect that" and i said "i'd think i'd be used to it by now" and then said goodbye.

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 02:37 PM

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la la la la la

what was flotzi's look while all of this transpired at 230 am?

if someone is gonna disturb my wife while we lie together in the sack, it better be important-- like someone bleeding to death calling to say goodbye

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 02:38 PM

let's just say he was PISSED.

Everyneurotic · 12.02.2007, 02:40 PM

ahh man, i have a two friends that are like that. not pretty.

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 02:40 PM

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let's just say he was PISSED.

good man. now just let him do the breakup-- of his cranium.

anyway hm he doesnt sound like your friend. sounds like he wants to get in your pants & just wants the attention.

but i'm a cynical bastard.

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Everyneurotic

ahh man, i have a two friends that are like that. not pretty.

please tell me about them.

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by girlgun

barbiturates

master blaster

anyway my psychological analyses are far too subtle to post on the internet. i'll refrain from further posting of such subtleties as they usually go way over the head of the general public. and this would require further interrogation that im not sure you'd be comfortable with. and i have some observations i'd rather not make in public.

however i'm comfortable to say this: he sounds like a pain in the ass.

Everyneurotic · 12.02.2007, 02:56 PM

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please tell me about them.

the guy friend (who isn't exactly my friend now but we were good friends and now are in ok terms) is an "excentric" person that doesn't know when to stop, his other personality trait is that he can be an arrogant dick and more so nowadays, is for the most time.

she's a really good friend of mine but she looooves to suffer, always sets herself up for disappointment.

he's especially fond of being a dick to her, she gets upset, then kinda rationalizes it, says he's a dick and then starts to like him again, thinking he's so funny and cool, just to get insulted by him again.

just last night, she called me all excited that she's going to work for him and he clearly said that he didn't want to hire her because he knew she sucked, and she just laughed.

girlgun · 12.02.2007, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Everyneurotic

the guy friend (who isn't exactly my friend now but we were good friends and now are in ok terms) is an "excentric" person that doesn't know when to stop, his other personality trait is that he can be an arrogant dick and more so nowadays, is for the most time.

she's a really good friend of mine but she looooves to suffer, always sets herself up for disappointment.

he's especially fond of being a dick to her, she gets upset, then kinda rationalizes it, says he's a dick and then starts to like him again, thinking he's so funny and cool, just to get insulted by him again.

just last night, she called me all excited that she's going to work for him and he clearly said that he didn't want to hire her because he knew she sucked, and she just laughed.

huh. sounds familiar.

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 02:59 PM

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huh. sounds familiar.

edited

i feel dirty now. pm?

Everyneurotic · 12.02.2007, 03:10 PM

tss tss tss...always thinking the worse, !@#$%!

!@#$%! · 12.02.2007, 03:14 PM

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tss tss tss...always thinking the worse, !@#$%!

it's my policy.

but you dont know what im thinking

12.02.2007, 12:53 PM	#1
girlgun invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,906	have you ever had to do it? why? i'm going to have to. it's making me old. it's making me feel bad. he always tears me down and (no exaggerating) has probably said a total of 5 nice things to me in 3 years. i usually write it off because he's emotionally immature and a bit like dealing with a child sometimes, but it's taking it's toll.
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Sheriff Rhys Chatham invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: New England. Posts: 4,027	Never just ended a friendship, just slowly went our own ways. __________________ My Music(grunge rock) A part of this blue shit since June 24th, 2004
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Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	tell him he's a cunt, walk away and don't come back. that'll be clear for him. ps: no, i'm serious. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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12.02.2007, 02:16 PM	#6
girlgun invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,906	original attraction? he's super fucking funny and makes me laugh every. single. day. it's mean sense of humor too. he's also really smart. that's really about it. i learn stuff and i laugh, but i never get to say a word. he's a narcissist. i hardly ever call him. he calls me about 10 times a day. he calls to even tell me he's going to take a shit. but you're right. you're totally right. i don't need it. i know this. just have a bitch of a time letting it go. i think it's a habit. i hate change. i've tried before, but i think i have a chance this time because he's going away for 5 months. that'll put some distance between us. despite how... not well.. he treats me... i still feel bad leaving him. then he'll have no one.
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12.02.2007, 02:21 PM	#7
Savage Clone invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 11,286	I think this will probably be for the best, but I know it won't be easy for you. I'm sorry.
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12.02.2007, 02:32 PM	#9
girlgun invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,906	thanks, sc. last night was just... so typical of his emotional games. he called at 2.30 and woke me up (as well as the wife), and was so very drunk (he doesn't drink usually). he screamed deep purple into the phone for 5 minutes (which i thought was funny despite the ear pain) and then we had a good talk.. errrr i mean he talked and i played the supportive friend. the talk turned to people disappointing others and him saying "if you expect everyone will disappoint you... you won't be surprised". i said that he has plenty of people in his life who don't disappoint him. he named 2 of his male buddies. i said.. "what about me?" and he said ... "you disappoint me. you do stupid shit sometimes." i asked what i did and he changed the subject. i told him he hurt my feelings and he said "i don't think i really care". so i said "you disappoint me" and he said "you should expect that" and i said "i'd think i'd be used to it by now" and then said goodbye.
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12.02.2007, 02:38 PM	#11
girlgun invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,906	let's just say he was PISSED.
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12.02.2007, 02:40 PM	#12
Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	ahh man, i have a two friends that are like that. not pretty. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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12.02.2007, 03:10 PM	#19
Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	tss tss tss...always thinking the worse, !@#$%! __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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