i have no friends anymore - Page 6

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 05:15 PM

look children, this is how it works.

first, the sorrow of many is consolation only to fools (translating spanish saying here-- mal de muchos, consuelo de tontos-- how do you say that?)

but really, life goes this way:

when you're a teenager and in your early 20s, you think your friends are like blood brothers 4evarr etc etc.

but then everyone get their girlfriend/gayfriend/wife/husband/partner & they become so occupied with relationship/family life that friends recede to the background.

now people can keep and build new friendships after becoming domesticated, but it's rarer than before. friendship takes time and work and when the majority of your energy goes elsewhere well duh.

this of course does not mean the end of your social life.

the wife and i see friends every week-- some are hers, some are mine, some are common. but they are not BLOOD BRUTHAS 4EVARRRR. it's a more quiet thing.

and really, as much as i like hanging out here, internet friends can't help you move house.

as for the "best friend" title, i've moved around so much that it's hard to keep those frienships; and then time passes and your highschool friend and you have little in common--oh yeah garden state didn't "discover"that. but anyway. friendships mutate. sometimes you're friend with someone for years and they turn into assholes and you gotta say bye. sometimes you change & everything around you changes. that's life.

now as for my unrequested advice to fénix: find a new house without rabbit shit where you can actually have people over & entertain them in a civilized manner, have dinner parties, orgies, what have you-- shit free of course.

that'll be $50. thanks.

m1rr0r dash · 02.27.2008, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by floatingslowly

he ain't heavy, he's my mother.

Describe in single words only the good things that come into your mind about... your mother.

robot.

floatingslowly · 02.27.2008, 05:21 PM

she costs less than $50, and you can stick yr hands inside her.

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 05:25 PM

i'll leave it to floater to add the regular dose of taradeces

please continue

Savage Clone · 02.27.2008, 05:26 PM

I have a best friend/blood brother 4 eva and I'm older than dirt.

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Savage Clone

I have a best friend/blood brother 4 eva and I'm older than dirt.

please clone read for comprehension & re-comment?

i never said you cant do that.

Savage Clone · 02.27.2008, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

look children, this is how it works.

but really, life goes this way:

when you're a teenager and in your early 20s, you think your friends are like blood brothers 4evarr etc etc.

but then everyone get their girlfriend/gayfriend/wife/husband/partner & they become so occupied with relationship/family life that friends recede to the background.
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Re-read for sanctimonious black-and-white presentation, thanks.

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Savage Clone

Re-read for sanctimonious black-and-white presentation, thanks.

its just annoying when people miss the point & distort, karl rove

floatingslowly · 02.27.2008, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Savage Clone

I have a best friend/blood brother 4 eva and I'm older than dirt.

yeah, I pretty much got to that part, decided it was psychobabble and stopped reading for lack of applicable content.

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

please continue

plan on it, chief.

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by floatingslowly

plan on it, chief.

that's great, scout.

Savage Clone · 02.27.2008, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

its just annoying when people miss the point & distort, karl rove

Understood, but not everybody runs with a crowd that is inclined to go the Family Way (which obviously can disrupt social life, but there are numerous examples to the contrary in my own social circles), and there are any number of ways "life goes."

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Savage Clone

Understood, but not everybody runs with a crowd that is inclined to go the Family Way (which obviously can disrupt social life, but there are numerous examples to the contrary in my own social circles), and there are any number of ways "life goes."

yeah exactly. you've had a pretty stable life as far as location & relationships (youve been married since you were 19 or so, & living in the same place) so its easier to maintain long friendships.

its easier to keep your best friend from high school than it is to meet your best friend when you're 30-- can happen but it's unusual. not saying impossible or can't happen, just that it's rarer.

and then i am so radically a different person than i was in highschool that i cant be best friend with those who were my best friends. if i had stayed similar, yes.

of my 4 best highschool friends i only have things in common with one now, he's a human rights activist-- the other 2 went for a bougie life and we have little in common. another we stopped getting along after he had kids, not sure exaclty how. but the distance of 5000 miles makes it difficult to keep in touch with the last one left.

friendships i've made after that are good, but haven't been as strong, and it's eaier to drift away. there seems to be some kind of an age window for that type of bond, not sure if it's hardwired.

Savage Clone · 02.27.2008, 06:00 PM

I've lucked out in that my closest friend (who I met when I was 22) has changed and mutated along a similar path to mine. Overall, I would say that I am more socially active now than at any other time in my life, but it is all within a fairly insular music crowd. And I don't have any kids.
I don't know if I could be friends with any of my highschool friends now (aside from my wife of course).
Maybe one, but I haven't talked to him in years.
And yes, my geographical steadiness sure has helped a lot. If I moved I think it would be pretty tough, because I don't usually talk to people I on't know.

Rob Instigator · 02.27.2008, 06:05 PM

you should go get FEAR...LIVE FOR THE RECORD and listen to

what are friends for?

girlgun · 02.27.2008, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

look children, this is how it works.

first, the sorrow of many is consolation only to fools (translating spanish saying here-- mal de muchos, consuelo de tontos-- how do you say that?)

but really, life goes this way:

when you're a teenager and in your early 20s, you think your friends are like blood brothers 4evarr etc etc.

but then everyone get their girlfriend/gayfriend/wife/husband/partner & they become so occupied with relationship/family life that friends recede to the background.

now people can keep and build new friendships after becoming domesticated, but it's rarer than before. friendship takes time and work and when the majority of your energy goes elsewhere well duh.

this of course does not mean the end of your social life.

the wife and i see friends every week-- some are hers, some are mine, some are common. but they are not BLOOD BRUTHAS 4EVARRRR. it's a more quiet thing.

and really, as much as i like hanging out here, internet friends can't help you move house.

as for the "best friend" title, i've moved around so much that it's hard to keep those frienships; and then time passes and your highschool friend and you have little in common--oh yeah garden state didn't "discover"that. but anyway. friendships mutate. sometimes you're friend with someone for years and they turn into assholes and you gotta say bye. sometimes you change & everything around you changes. that's life.

now as for my unrequested advice to fénix: find a new house without rabbit shit where you can actually have people over & entertain them in a civilized manner, have dinner parties, orgies, what have you-- shit free of course.

that'll be $50. thanks.

did you get your Ph.D in clinical psych in the back of rolling stone? and if so... did it JUST come in the mail?

suggestion: your psychobabble would be best prefaced with a "IMO". sayin'

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by girlgun

did you get your Ph.D in clinical psych in the back of rolling stone? and if so... did it JUST come in the mail?

suggestion: your psychobabble would be best prefaced with a "IMO". sayin'

EMO? i leave that to you.

and it's not babble-- what i wrote makes perfect sense, and it's the motherfucking holy truth of the ages, for ever and ever, amen.

girlgun · 02.27.2008, 06:42 PM

emo? when offering advice, it's always nice to offer something of yourself too, IMO.

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by girlgun

emo? when offering advice, it's always nice to offer something of yourself too, IMO.

uh??

imo? uma?

tell me something interesting and i'll pay attention.

really, i will.

!@#$%! · 02.27.2008, 06:47 PM

ha ha, sorry, i just felt like being an extra-asshole there. one of those impulses.

please continue.

girlgun · 02.27.2008, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

uh??

imo? uma?

tell me something interesting and i'll pay attention.

really, i will.

you're always desperate to have the last word. even if it's lame.

go on with your bad self?

02.27.2008, 05:15 PM	#101
!@#$%! invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: mars attacks Posts: 42,466	look children, this is how it works. first, the sorrow of many is consolation only to fools (translating spanish saying here-- mal de muchos, consuelo de tontos-- how do you say that?) but really, life goes this way: when you're a teenager and in your early 20s, you think your friends are like blood brothers 4evarr etc etc. but then everyone get their girlfriend/gayfriend/wife/husband/partner & they become so occupied with relationship/family life that friends recede to the background. now people can keep and build new friendships after becoming domesticated, but it's rarer than before. friendship takes time and work and when the majority of your energy goes elsewhere well duh. this of course does not mean the end of your social life. the wife and i see friends every week-- some are hers, some are mine, some are common. but they are not BLOOD BRUTHAS 4EVARRRR. it's a more quiet thing. and really, as much as i like hanging out here, internet friends can't help you move house. as for the "best friend" title, i've moved around so much that it's hard to keep those frienships; and then time passes and your highschool friend and you have little in common--oh yeah garden state didn't "discover"that. but anyway. friendships mutate. sometimes you're friend with someone for years and they turn into assholes and you gotta say bye. sometimes you change & everything around you changes. that's life. now as for my unrequested advice to fénix: find a new house without rabbit shit where you can actually have people over & entertain them in a civilized manner, have dinner parties, orgies, what have you-- shit free of course. that'll be $50. thanks.
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02.27.2008, 05:21 PM	#103
floatingslowly invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 21,165	she costs less than $50, and you can stick yr hands inside her.
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02.27.2008, 05:25 PM	#104
!@#$%! invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: mars attacks Posts: 42,466	i'll leave it to floater to add the regular dose of taradeces please continue
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02.27.2008, 05:26 PM	#105
Savage Clone invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 11,286	I have a best friend/blood brother 4 eva and I'm older than dirt.
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02.27.2008, 06:00 PM	#113
Savage Clone invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 11,286	I've lucked out in that my closest friend (who I met when I was 22) has changed and mutated along a similar path to mine. Overall, I would say that I am more socially active now than at any other time in my life, but it is all within a fairly insular music crowd. And I don't have any kids. I don't know if I could be friends with any of my highschool friends now (aside from my wife of course). Maybe one, but I haven't talked to him in years. And yes, my geographical steadiness sure has helped a lot. If I moved I think it would be pretty tough, because I don't usually talk to people I on't know.
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02.27.2008, 06:05 PM	#114
Rob Instigator invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: In the land of the Instigator Posts: 27,930	you should go get FEAR...LIVE FOR THE RECORD and listen to what are friends for? __________________ RXTT's Intellectual Journey - my new blog where I talk about all the books I read.
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02.27.2008, 06:42 PM	#117
girlgun invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2,906	emo? when offering advice, it's always nice to offer something of yourself too, IMO.
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02.27.2008, 06:47 PM	#119
!@#$%! invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: mars attacks Posts: 42,466	ha ha, sorry, i just felt like being an extra-asshole there. one of those impulses. please continue.
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