tactful ways to improve yr sex life - Page 3

terriblecanyons · 08.10.2009, 04:06 AM

Well yeah, if it were happening for like a week or something I wouldn't break up with him, but from what you said it's been going on for a while, and you've tried to deal with the situation but are getting no results, hence my post.

Toilet & Bowels · 08.10.2009, 04:08 AM

two girls i know have had this problem, the first one's boyfriend stopped having sex with her because he wanted to break up but didn't have the balls to come out and say it and it ended with her eventually getting dumped, the second one her boyfriend just became too comfortable in the relationship and he got complacent, she resolved the situation by trying to initiate sex with him and then bursting out in tears when he wasn't responsive, they are now engaged and sex is back to how it should be

phoenix · 08.10.2009, 04:12 AM

ermm, Im pretty sure he doesn't want to break up with me

and I dont really feel that breaking out in tears in order to manipulate sex response is for me.

but, thankyou

phoenix · 08.10.2009, 04:13 AM

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Originally Posted by terriblecanyons

Well yeah, if it were happening for like a week or something I wouldn't break up with him, but from what you said it's been going on for a while, and you've tried to deal with the situation but are getting no results, hence my post.

it's frustrating, but not frustrating enough to make me not love him anymore. :P

Satan · 08.10.2009, 04:15 AM

yeah but you can love someone and be attached to them without being in love with them. for example i will always love my boyfriend but if i was not also in love with him we would be done.

pbradley · 08.10.2009, 04:21 AM

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I really don't mind, I'm just giving you what you want, a reaction, right?

Actually, no. I figured my comment was pretty innocuous in how self-evidently obligatory the sentiment was. You could have simply explained that the problem had progressed past the luxury of privacy.

Instead, you've opted for the typical SYG passive-aggression of devaluing my comments as predictable attention-seeking.

Conrad · 08.10.2009, 04:22 AM

Satan has big points.

_slavo_ · 08.10.2009, 04:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Satan

yeah but you can love someone and be attached to them without being in love with them. for example i will always love my boyfriend but if i was not also in love with him we would be done.

well, that's curious. i don't feel i'm in love with my lady anymore, but I know I truly love her and want to spend my life with her.

Satan · 08.10.2009, 04:29 AM

yeah but if there's no passion or spark or anything what is it other than a very close friendship? part of the reason we've lasted this long is because we want to fuck each other 24/7.

phoenix · 08.10.2009, 04:29 AM

this thread isn't about how much I love my other half. It's just about sex.

phoenix · 08.10.2009, 04:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Satan

yeah but if there's no passion or spark or anything what is it other than a very close friendship? part of the reason we've lasted this long is because we want to fuck each other 24/7.

I think it's natural for relationships to change over time, and I think if you dump every relationship you have as soon as you don't want to unf them 24/7 yr going to have a lot of relationships. Which might suit you fine, but I dont think its necessarily a reason to dump someone. But that is my opinion.

phoenix · 08.10.2009, 04:32 AM

Having said that, if I COULD unf the boyshape 24/7, I would. But not donig so does not make me want to break up with him. It makes me want to fix it.

Satan · 08.10.2009, 04:33 AM

this is true, and it's not a good reason to break up on its own, every relationship has good times and bad times but if you both really want it to work bad enough you can get through it. this is where LOVE (not in love) plays a part.

Anngella · 08.10.2009, 04:43 AM

If it makes you feel any better: my boyfriend and I have only met once and our sex life consists of very occasional phone sex.

Satan · 08.10.2009, 04:59 AM

phone sex is awesome

Toilet & Bowels · 08.10.2009, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by phoenix

ermm, Im pretty sure he doesn't want to break up with me

and I dont really feel that breaking out in tears in order to manipulate sex response is for me.

but, thankyou

well i don't think she was being manipulative, more just frustrated and unhappy

_slavo_ · 08.10.2009, 06:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Satan

yeah but if there's no passion or spark or anything what is it other than a very close friendship? part of the reason we've lasted this long is because we want to fuck each other 24/7.

There is passion, a shitload of it. The sex is still awesome after the years. I'm just not in love anymore, you know, butterflies in stomach and shit.

verme (prevaricator) · 08.10.2009, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by _slavo_

There is passion, a shitload of it

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Originally Posted by _slavo_

I'm just not in love anymore

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Lamont Cranston · 08.10.2009, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by phoenix

My biggest stress is that he is cheating again : /

IDK.

With a man, explaining why he's so into the cock and turned off by you.

_slavo_ · 08.10.2009, 07:34 AM

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that's why I added "butterflies in stomach and shit"
you know, that feeling.

08.10.2009, 04:06 AM	#41
terriblecanyons invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: the land where large fuzzy dice still hang proudly like testicles from rear-view mirrors Posts: 5,949	Well yeah, if it were happening for like a week or something I wouldn't break up with him, but from what you said it's been going on for a while, and you've tried to deal with the situation but are getting no results, hence my post.
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08.10.2009, 04:08 AM	#42
Toilet & Bowels invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Northern Europe Posts: 12,214	two girls i know have had this problem, the first one's boyfriend stopped having sex with her because he wanted to break up but didn't have the balls to come out and say it and it ended with her eventually getting dumped, the second one her boyfriend just became too comfortable in the relationship and he got complacent, she resolved the situation by trying to initiate sex with him and then bursting out in tears when he wasn't responsive, they are now engaged and sex is back to how it should be
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08.10.2009, 04:12 AM	#43
phoenix invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: the future where it's hot and dark Posts: 5,926	ermm, Im pretty sure he doesn't want to break up with me and I dont really feel that breaking out in tears in order to manipulate sex response is for me. but, thankyou __________________ tiny and lost.
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08.10.2009, 04:15 AM	#45
Satan invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: noo yawk Posts: 6,331	yeah but you can love someone and be attached to them without being in love with them. for example i will always love my boyfriend but if i was not also in love with him we would be done. __________________ "I love meth." - batreleaser
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08.10.2009, 04:22 AM	#47
Conrad stalker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Somewhere Posts: 403	Satan has big points. __________________ Violence, gore, and mutilation Dismemberment, decapitation
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08.10.2009, 04:29 AM	#49
Satan invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: noo yawk Posts: 6,331	yeah but if there's no passion or spark or anything what is it other than a very close friendship? part of the reason we've lasted this long is because we want to fuck each other 24/7. __________________ "I love meth." - batreleaser
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08.10.2009, 04:32 AM	#52
phoenix invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: the future where it's hot and dark Posts: 5,926	Having said that, if I COULD unf the boyshape 24/7, I would. But not donig so does not make me want to break up with him. It makes me want to fix it. __________________ tiny and lost.
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08.10.2009, 04:33 AM	#53
Satan invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: noo yawk Posts: 6,331	this is true, and it's not a good reason to break up on its own, every relationship has good times and bad times but if you both really want it to work bad enough you can get through it. this is where LOVE (not in love) plays a part. __________________ "I love meth." - batreleaser
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08.10.2009, 04:43 AM	#54
Anngella expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Vagina Posts: 1,900	If it makes you feel any better: my boyfriend and I have only met once and our sex life consists of very occasional phone sex. __________________ FLICKR http://slouchingsunflowers.tumblr.com/
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08.10.2009, 04:59 AM	#55
Satan invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: noo yawk Posts: 6,331	phone sex is awesome __________________ "I love meth." - batreleaser
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