was listening to jordan peterson the other day and he sez in our society it all boils down to competence, which raises your place in the social hierarchy, which raises your serotonin, which makes you feel better, etc.
im not a jordanian (lol) and dont agree with all his social/political extrapolations which are i think oversimplistic extrapolations, but his pyschology of the individual (he talks about “seeing clients”) seems spot on.
lemme find you a jootoob...
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6c9Uu5eILZ8
much of it makes a lot of sense—put some order in your life, get a job, friends, etc.
if you got all that i missed your original post so i dont know exactly.