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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

rollercoasters are the illusion of danger and pain.

actually hurting someone willingly during sex, for the purpose of making the sex better? That is not something that just happens. In my 42 years I have yet to find someone who engages in "risky" sex (bruising, degradation, painful insertions, extreme bondage, sadism, random sex with strangers) that does not do so to either mask, justify, hide, repress, or compartmentalize prior trauma. When this is the only way for someone to get sexual satisfaction? EVEN MORE SO.


what consensual adults do in the sex act, as long as it is mutually agreed, is none of my business, but that does not mean that the impetus behind such sex acts is drawn purely from sexual fun.

Ask around.

a lot of rough sex play is just the illusion of danger and pain-- nobody gets actually harmed.

and in my own experience the people with trauma are very afraid of risky-anything. they flip out at the first flashback.

so there you go, neither your experience nor mine are universal

i get that there are pathological extremes, i do, but i'm not asking goatbols for details of his sex life to judge it under a microscope.

AND there is no such thing as "purely from sexual fun." that would imply that sexual fun is some kind of ethereal thing like anges tickling each other's wings, with no earthly connection.

sexual tastes vary wildly and we don't need a bedroom police. next we're going to be discussing "unnatural" sex practices.