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an example of my encounters with chasers on dating sites:
intro pick up line: "can i come over now"
WHOA RED FLAG SERIAL KILLER.
no profile, no picture
WHOA RED FLAG FUCKING MORONIC SERIAL KILLER
me: let's start with 'hello'
them: hey
me: that's a slight improvement. what gender are you?
them: male
me: cis or trans
them: no
me: you have to be one or the other. were you born a man? or are you saying you are intersex?
them: i just want to fuck
me: do you not know what cisgender means? if you want to fuck a trans woman, maybe at least read a faq or the first paragraph on wikipedia
basically from there on out it becomes clear they have been hearing this from other people and learned nothing. then they start telling me i'm not a woman or a person and i'm delusional etc
i actually tried to offer helpful advice. how if you want to fuck a trans woman, you have to be respectful, and you have to realize they do not have sex the way you do. these men's exposure to trans women is pornhub. they know nothing else. at least be aware of the huge difference between trans porn aimed at heterosexual cis men versus trans porn aimed at cis and trans lesbians. it's just like other porn aimed at women, it's about the mind and emotions. way more talking than sex. (honestly i often just use the intro story in porn to get my mind going, then i go in my bedroom and fantasize about my gf.)
...and this man wants to fuck a trans woman, any trans woman, and assumes they are basically slaves
HINT: IF MY PROFILE SAYS I'M A LESBIAN AND I DON'T RESPOND TO MALES, YOU ARE NOT A MAGIC EXCEPTION. why do cis men make lesbian profiles in the first place? i have not spent 37 years wrestling with LGBTQ issues without realizing i'm into men. i am not going to suddenly go "i've never been attracted to men, but this gross, sexist, fat, idiot 15 years my senior is somehow hot and i want him to fuck me in the ass."
really? why are men so stupid? by which i mean these kind of men, not you fine gentlemen.
it makes me want to delete every dating profile i have except for okcupid.
/RANT
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