I don't understand what queer is honestly! I'm 37 myself and queer was an offensive slur for most of my life. I associate the word with being shoved into a mud puddle in middle school.
A cis woman i had a crush on declared herself queer on facebook on coming out day. I asked her about it. Turned out she had only ever dated cis men. She was open to dating cis/trans women but was used to the male dynamic. A few months later she started dating a cis guy...