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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

The worst marriages in terms of the most damage done to all involved (especially the kids) are the ones where people got together solely because they got pregnant. Those marriages can be toxic from the get-go.

there's also the ones where people marry because they are "in love" (read: temporarily horny) without figuring out if they are actually suited to form a family. great sex is not enough to keep things going for life.

this is the sort of teenage delusion that i meant to explain to kekes in the poetry thread (but didn't). "love" (the early stuff) is good and all, but what matters to a marriage is what's left after the initial fascination has been used up-- because it's always fascinating at the start, but when you start to fart in bed, who smells it? a friend? or a foe?

and in the end you don't just marry the person but the whole family. and that only becomes apparent after a while. better to shack up first than to marry in a hurry.