Originally Posted by SONIC GAIL
Love has nothing to do with sex. Sex alone makes only the body happy love makes you happy. I never liked sex until I found someone I loved. I just thought I was supposed to like it cause all the girls on TV did.
I was hurt because of others selfishness. I was given no love. People just slept around behind my back and left me to endure the pain they caused.
All I'm sayin is that everywhere I look, everyone is sayin fuck anything you want who cares about the cosequences. We have reverted to animals. When I watch tv, every show is innundated with sexual innuendos..Every other commercial is for viagra, herpes medicine, the morning after pill, condoms, ky jelly. There are so many herpes commercials cause everyone's spreadin around like it's gold. If people don't take the consequences into account they are gonna be in for a big surprise when the shit hits the fan.
Love and sex do not necessarily go together. In fact, they usually are two separate things.
This is my opinion: We are taught to view sex in a manner which is completely removed from the sphere of the erotic. The erotic is a realm of passion, desire and chaos. It is never plastic or picture perfect. There is a lot of power in the erotic, which is probably why it is so vilified. We are taught to fear and loathe it. I'm gonna quote Audre Lorde, cuz articulates it beatifically:
"It [the erotic] has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, and plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have turned away from the exploration and consideration of the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it with the pornographic. But pornography is a direct denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppression of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without feeling. The erotic is a measure between our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire. For having experienced the fullness of this depth of feeling and recognizing its power, in honor and self-respect we can require no less of ourselves."
She continues that this corruption of the erotic into the pornographic has been misnamed by men and used against woman.
That all being said, when you truly love somebody, sex can be one of the most fulfilling experiences. It can really take you somewhere else, spiritually speaking. However, just because you love somebody doesn't mean you should be fucking them. And visa vera. As long as you are particiating in sex that is safe and consentual.