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Originally Posted by Murmer99
Perhaps, but that's not necessarily the same thing as cheating on someone in a serious relationship, especially deceiving someone you've been with for an extensive amount of time. I find it odious that your posts on this thread are condoning the act itself, and only because you feel that most people do it. If that's true, then it sure says something about most individuals. I don't have malice against someone who has cheated before, but it kind of irks me if that same person were to continue doing it because, well, who gives a fuck? we'll all do it because all we want to do is fuck anyways!
You know I'm sort of joking, but I just don't identify with what you're saying. If I'm no longer enjoying the proximity, I'd respect the person enough to talk to them about it instead of lying and cheating on them. I merely feel like you're devaluing the other person's emotions because in the end, it isn't imperative. And for what it's worth, I think that if having sex is the predominant concern, it would rapidly get boring at some point for me. I just can't see myself sleeping with someone who I don't find desirable enough to continue seeing, or without emotional investment. It seems like a waste, and it's insipidly vacuous and empty to me if that's all there is for the rest of my life.
With that said, I couldn't care less about this story. I have no particular desire to learn about what happened.
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Condoning the act? I'm not condoning it. I made it clear that cheating is wrong, but only in the way that it's a lie. Also, I haven't picked the ordeal apart the way some of you clearly have (I prefer Sonic Youth's music to their personal lives), but the article with Kim didn't seem littered with juicy details. She found a text, they sought counseling, he continued to see the woman. I don't even know Thurston's side of the story. Whose to say something didn't lead to him feeling the need to have an affair in the first place? Probably not the case, but I can assure ya no one posting in this thread knows. And for good reason...it's none of your business.
And cheating does say something about most individuals. It's celebrated all over modern film, television, music. Cheating is sort of the new taboo as far as I can tell. Again, I don't think it's "OK", but it's reality. America will be better off when it opens it's mind toward the fact that people want and are going to have sex with more than one person and accepts that for what it is. It doesn't mean you love someone less. Again, it's only cheating if you lie about it.
And you're young and a bit inexperienced/etc....but I can assure you friend, anyone that has been with the same person for 3+ years and says they find their partner just as interesting and sexually satisfying as they did when they met is lying. Why do people watch porn? Do most people that watch porn only watch the same porn star over and over and over and over? Probably not. I definitely don't.