ooh, this is some really nasty and depressing stuff, out on the internet for everyone to see...
gossip here
http://mishkanyc.com/bloglin/2010/02...o-drunkdriver/
and here
http://www.ihateyouthattack.com/pages/ythgst.htm?page=4
singer no longer wants to be in a band with the drummer because of it, apparently:
BERDAN SPEAKS:
"this is probably far too little too late,
but here it goes...
i didn't know about these accusations when we
started this band. after about six months in,
one of these incidents was brought to my
attention. had a long talk with jeremy about
it, who completely denied it. he told me in
detail about the incident when he was 15 and
both instances in question from when he was
in wives. after thinking about it, i decided
that i wanted to believe my friend's story.
he told kristy about it, and she took the
same position as i did. after she and i heard
from two very hard detractors of jeremy's, we
decided for ourselves that we needed more
information. because she didn't have an email
address or any other kind of contact info,
she wrote the myspace page of the band in
question. she absolutely did not ask for
details, but said that she was a woman
playing in a band with jeremy and wanted to
know if, as a woman, she should be concerned
about playing music with him or being around
him at all. she never heard back from them,
which is more than completely understandable
but did factor into why we decided to stay
together at that point. we tried our best to
talk to people who were around when
everything happened with wives, and many were
supportive of jeremy. we stayed a band for
three years after that, and in that period of
time jeremy did not ever step out of line or
act out of turn. he had cut significantly
down on drinking in the past year and stopped
completely in november. when we were on our
way back from chicago, i was told about the
mishka blog post. i didn't mention it to
kristy or jeremy at the moment because i just
wanted for us to get home safely and not
freak out. the day that i got home, timmy
hefner called me and said that he had talked
to no age and some other la people after
reading the blog and absolutely could not do
shows for us anymore. immediately after that,
todd p called and said that he was dropping
us from his monterey fest because no age
refused to play if we were on. immediately
after that, randy from no age called me. this
was the first time that anyone from la had
ever contacted me or kristy. he told me his
side of the story and no age's position and
was as sweet, stand up, and polite as
possible in doing so. after talking with him,
i started to feel differently. the enormous
gravity of the situation started to really
beat down on me and i felt significant doubt
for the first time. we talked about it at
length again, and a part of me, as someone i
had grown close to, still wanted to give
jeremy the benefit of the doubt. he freely
and openly discussed this with anyone and
openly posted his email address to anyone who
wanted to contact him about this, which made
me feel more confident in him. i still wanted
to give him the benefit of the doubt, but
this ate at me more and more. we played a
handful of other shows and did sxsw. after
that, this thread came up. with all of the
dialogue, it beat me down and made me
reexamine my position. i told kristy and
jeremy that i could no longer do the band and
they respected my decision. i agreed to play
this one last show, but as time went on and i
talked to friends and read this thread, i
decided that i couldn't do that either.
i won't lie and say that i don't care about
jeremy. when he's told me what he's told me
in the past, i really want to believe him.
still, i know that a number of people
involved in his past have absolutely no
reason to lie to me and if this is true, i
absolutely cannot live with myself. the
thought of it disgusts me and breaks my
heart. the fact that he's been good
throughout my experience doesn't take away
from the possibility of his past. i can't do
this band anymore and feel good about it.
i'm so sorry to everyone who this has hurt.
i'm so sorry to everyone who i have
disappointed beyond repair. i never meant any
harm, but that doesn't take away from
anything."