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Originally Posted by Nefeli
well, this in general makes sense.
your friends, the real ones, will be always (? -this is always for debate) by your side and its a different kind of relationship, whereas a couple 's relationship..well you dont know the other as well and as long as your friends, its common to have your heart broken and who will comfort you if you have dissed all your friends for your relationship'sake.., it is competitive at the begging..overall it needs time aswell to evolve and be pure.
how old are you guys?
when you are young and just starting, you have your friends, when you get into your first serious relationship, you get a feeling and a different view of your friends.
does this make sense, as i wrote it?
anyway, ignore this. it was slightly irrelevant.
oh man, i cant be brief!
the fact that this other girl is mean and lies its unacceptable.
you cant do much i m afraid.
say where you stand to your gf and then let it go. if you 2 start wasting your time on the 3rd part, it wont do you any good.
here. i was 2 the point. tried at least.
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We are both nearly 17, and this is both our first relationships that's lasted more than a month or whatever. And I understand the importance of her having friends.. but she also abides by this one friend and says she's "lonely" and it's her only resort. And even though I've told her to hang out with the people she talks to, she makes up lame excuses not to.
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and also, you'd be surprised. maybe your gf has made a complaints about you to her friend (something she never mentioned to you) or used you as an excuse which would cause this friend to have a distorted perception of you?
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Yes, at the start of our relationship there was some drama and this friend is what she used to comfort herself. And that is a part of the problem, this friend has only seen a bad side to our relationship (and a part of the relationship that happened months ago) and has not heard of any of the good things. I've told her friend this though and she doesn't believe me.