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Originally Posted by knox
But, above all, to me the real question is: why are the mothers taking days off and leaving early? why aren't them sharing that burden equally with the fathers?
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I thinkthe question should be: why is it expected that the woman will take the time off and leave early to attend to the kids?
many men do the same thing, a blanket indictment of them is not possible, but why is it expected that the woman is the one who will take the mothering role?
maybe because they are the mother?
I truly think that biologcally, the mother, by virtue of having nourished and carried the child for 9 months inside her, as well as the nursing that ussually takes place for months or years afterwards, either develops, or has ingrained in her brain, nurturing skills which men have to work harder at to be as good at, or even to develop. this is not a bias, just an idea about the issue.
males are very superfluous to the cycle of life. we only are required, by nature, to inseminate. physically, a child does not need a male to survive. A mogther however, with her milk, is the very core of survival for infants and babies.
This is a bit off topic but there have been recemnt studies done that show how women are attarcted to burly, manly, alpha-type males BEFORE they get opregnant, for there are physical clues/markers which show that a strong healthy robust male will have strong sperm and therefore strong healthy chuildren, but these same studies show that AFTER a woman has given birth, their instincts change to be attracted more to the kind, gentler, emotinally nourishing males, as opposed to the lumbering oaf male.
that is funny to me.
they say it helps explain why many women can feel these seemingly irrational feelings of disgust at the man they fell in love with, once they had their first child. they find him repulsive an dwant a nurturer instead of a protector/provider/fuck machine.
weird huh?