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for the last 3 nights, my 11-year-old son has come into my room crying after he's gone to bed with questions about death. i decided a couple of nights ago after talking to him that he was at a disadvantage because he wasn't raised with any sort of religion (because most kids are. they know that when they die they go to heaven where they will meet their other dead loved ones which is a sort of comfort to them). i don't feel wrong or bad for not raising him like that.. but when a kid who isn't raised like that can't sleep because he's worried that when we die "we're dead like scientists say" and he'll "never see the people he loves again"... i'm not sure what to say. he wants answers and i can't give them to him. i reminded him that i was agnostic.. but i definitely believe that everything has a soul or life force or energy... and that i believe death is only hard for the ones left behind (because they miss the deceased) and not for the one who dies.
last night i had a dream that someone tapped me on the shoulder while i was having a conversation with another person. i turned around and looked at him. i knew him, but i couldn't figure out who he was. then i realized it was my uncle (my mom's younger brother/only sibling). the reason i didn't recognize him was because he looked like he did when i was very little and he was very young. he said "i just wanted to say hi" and i said "hello!" ... and that's all i remember or all that happened.
my sister called me this morning to tell me my uncle died last night. i wasn't terribly close to him, but needless to say i was very freaked out about the dream. and also found it very odd that i had been having these conversations with my boy for the last few nights (and of course i feel terrible for my mom and grandmother).
i'm really weirded out. anyone had a similar experience? i have heard a million similar stories in the past, but i never took them too seriously. sorry for the length of this post.
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