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Originally Posted by girlgun
when it comes down to true discrimination... fat people take the brunt.
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I agree with this.
And it's silly to think that, if given the choice, more people would rather be thought of as "too fat" than "too skinny." That's just not the way our society is.
I never gave much thought to weight in general until recently. Growing up, I never really heard people I know talk about the issues they had with their bodies. It just didn't come up. I was friends with people of all sizes and still I never heard any person judge themselves against another.
And then this year, I became friends with a girl who is short and although not skinny, she is not what I would call fat either. To me she has a normal girl's body type, she has a cute smiley happy face, and she is a little on the short side. Whatever. Anyway, she is the first person I've known who has just openly beaten herself up over her weight. She tells me that she has gained 30 pounds since high school ended because she eats out at restaurants all the time and doesn't order the healthiest of foods. I feel bad when she tells me that she feels unattractive, but then she'll switch gears and tell me that she knows it's easy for her to attract male attention, and it's easy for her to find a boyfriend (of which she already has one), and all of this other crap, but she doesn't like the way that she looks. And that's fine. Just because she has a boyfriend, it doesn't mean that it will automatically boost her self-esteem. But she says the most inane shit to me sometimes, like "Rebecca, if I were as skinny as you, I would be much more flirtatious than you are right now. I don't know why you don't have a boyfriend, like, all the time." How do I explain to her that the differences between the two of us, as far as physical appearance is concerned, are really not the issue here? We are not so different in that area that it would result in one of us having all the luck and the other having none. In this case, it is really about personality. Mine turns most people off. Hers does not. She makes guys feel like they are needed. I probably make them feel the opposite. And so on. I mean, there is a reason why she has never gone without having a boyfriend, and why she has had something like 30 of them in the past 5 years. I just wish she could see below the surface of things. She thinks I'm really fucked up, anyway.