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Originally Posted by luxinterior
When I think of the possibility of adoption, it always involves me as a single person. I never really even consider the possibility of finding a man who would also prefer to adopt, because it seems that is extremely rare. I don't know why it's so rare, but mostly I don't think they understand why a woman would want to adopt, and so they go about assuming that whatever woman they end up with will want to have children, no questions asked. But mostly it's like this: If I do someday have a long-term partner, the way I see it now is that I would not want a kid in that situation. Because I'm selfish, and I would not like compromising the life I have with my partner just to raise a child. I don't even like kids (well not being around them constantly at least), so I don't know why I'm writing this.
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I think about it both ways. But I don't think I would be able to do it by myself, just for the mere fact that I know I'm not going to be super successful and financially it would be near impossible. I also agree with you that if I end up having a partner, I wouldn't want our relationship to suffer because of a kid. I've seen it happen too many times with friend's parents and my own parents, where they end up being more "married" to the children than the spouse.
Men don't think about why women would want adoption because they don't have vaginas.