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well, i finally broke out of that immigrants hellhole thread to get some air
yeah, i've had similar experiences to what truncated first wrote
it is awkward & I (as you do probably) just make some sort of excuse. as the situation gets more weird the excuses get more & more transparent to hopefully send a message of what the boundaries are.
it's like they want you to be their friend, but they also want you to entertain them or something. sometimes i guess it's because the person has little social or coping skills of their own.
I known some young guys at various jobs that did the same thing to me all the time & more recently, there's this friend of mine that I fell out of contact with for awhile because he got serious with a girlfriend who has kids of her own & now that the relationship is rocky he wants to hang out & he does the same thing on the phone to me all the time & calls with no point in mind & so forth.
The very worst case of this happening was just a few years ago & some guy started talking to me out of the blue as I was smoking outside when I lived at this one apartment complex. from there it seemed that he just started waiting to see me outside & then going out to talk to me. Thing was, we never had anything to talk about & I always did most of the talking. As my cigarette wes about out...then he wound ask a question or something. The guy didn't smoke either. Towards the end though, he was smoking cigarettes too...haha. I won't say what nationality he was, but he was (is still?) a foreign exchange student. My friend kept telling me the guy was gay, but I just don't think so, because in my youth I had a few gay stalkers. This won't do much much to discredit that theory, but the guy did give me a shirt for the Christmas that I was in that apartment complex. He said it was a gift someone gave him that he didn't want. It was not wrapped, but in a gift box, so I suppose his story checks out.
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