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Originally Posted by Nefeli
okey really this must be one of things/feelings, you get to have with someone you are really at ease with, open. thats nice and rare and sure has also to do with eachone's personality. might also mean that you are at point of pure friendship with your girlfriend, maybe not 100% in love anymore. <--not sure about this tho.
its normal to meet once in awhile while in a relationship, other people that you like more than usual liking. its up to the relationship you are in, whether the new thing gets more serious in your head.
wow, so easy to talk on theory. you are in dilemma, safe move is to leave some time go by and tell the other that you are in a relationship, so she -sadly-ll step back and leave it up to you..
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well, the other girl knows im in a relationship
im going to get to know her better, she would make a great friend, i suppose.
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Originally Posted by atsonicpark
I had this problem once...
...but I decided to stick with my girlfriend (4 years as of last Monday), and I realized the crush that I had, the cute chick who I hung out with and thought was amazing, had a lot of shit about her I could never stand to be with. if you and your girlfriend have a pretty decent and happy relationship, it's probably not worth risking it...
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that's the plan.
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Originally Posted by lucyrulesok
I think you shouldn't go...
You are having doubts enough to ask a bunch of Sonic Youth fans what to do, so you can't be that crazy about her. You had a fun time at the festival, and you clearly like this girl, but the fact that you have even the tiniest seed of doubt means that you should not ruin things with yr g/f for her. If you go see her, inevitably things will happen, and it'll just make the whole situation more complicated and unpleasant.
From what you've said about yr girlfriend (her being able to get someone 'a thousand times better') it seems that yr pretty insecure (maybe I'm wrong here...?) and maybe the attention from this new girl is giving you a confidence boost that yr enjoying? Maybe I'm reading to much into things here, and forgive me if I am, but I know it's easy to feel flattered when someone new likes you, and it can be dificult to see past that.
Just my two cents. Feel free to ignore!
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you've made some good points, but i think we can still be friends or something. she's way too cool for me not to talk to her ever again.
i guess i am a bit insecure when it comes to relationships, because my last 2 girlfriends cheated on me. My current girlfriend has been wonderful though, she's put up with sooo much of my crap and has been there when i needed her. i mean, she has her flaws and certain personality traits i am not too fond of, but so does everyone, i suppose. when you get to know someone well though, you learn to deal/work around these flaws, which is why our relationship works. i think the reason i feel bad is because we are both very honest with each other, but i dont know if i can be honest this time around. i just cant find myself telling her how i feel at the moment.
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Originally Posted by luxinterior
I think you should hang out with this new girl some more, see how it goes, and then make your decision, because there is no comparing your time spent with her to the time spent with your current girlfriend.
I don't really think it's wrong, I mean, it's not like you're married or something. Just don't bonk her.
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haha, bonk
love that word.
thank you everyone for the advice, its been very helpful.
i wish my friends would be more helpful... but they're not.