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Originally Posted by ploesj

well the relationship with this other woman didn't last either. in the end, he lost both women. now he has another girlfriend but i don't see them staying together for the rest of their lives actually.. she's totally different from who he really is, and he tried to change and such, but his true self comes back at times (actually, my father is pretty cool-we listen to the same music when his girlfriend isn't around, and he used to be the guy with the long hair promoting starting belgian bands and acting and such. but now he gave all that up and became a pr. ugh)

yeah, busting up a marriage is serious business. i had a friend who broke up with his wife over a girlfriend. i suggested to him if he couldnt help it to keep the his mistress secret or buy a sports car, or something, but to protect his marriage in the end. he split from his wife and now his kid hates him. for some reason (perhaps cos i was right?) he doesn't talk to me any more either. but really, it's a tough situation to be in when your emotions have you all fucked up inside. it's kind of a catch 22.

btw anyone who's interested in understanding the subject of marital infidelity should check out the movie "little children", which is really wonderful.