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I'm a trans woman so people will ask "are you gay?"
The answer is
No, but yes, but no
They are asking if i like guys which they would consider gay. As a woman i see that as a straight relationship. I'm only attracted to other women, but that includes transwomen.
So I'm gay, just not the way they are asking.
It was funny recently. I had only dated cis women, but my last girlfriend was trans. It didn't occur to me that it was any different until I noticed how my mom reacted and how people on the street reacted. Turns out I'm gayer than I realized. My middle school bullies were right all along.
Homophobia is so funny. Why do men freak out? What in the world makes them think a gay person would find them attractive? Gay people aren't attracted to all men same as I'm not attracted to every woman.
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