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Originally Posted by Satan
congrats!! that's a long fucking time. how do you do it?
i suppose you could call us high school sweethearts, we met in school while his dad was here working for a university, i was about 14 or 15. we were all outside the school smoking and i needed a light, he had one. i was kicked out of my house and needed somewhere to go, moved into his house, dropped out of school, and it just went from there.
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It is not easy. This is really corny, but I will tell you this story any way. I used to date his best friend when I was 15-16 who was a GIANT ASSHOLE. Me and Ryan were good friens back then and the 3 of us would always hang out. I eventually gathered the self esteem to dump my boyfriend then.
I never cheated on him with Ryan or planned it out that I would leave this one guy for him. He was just so nice and considerate and a really cool friend. For a few weeks we would just hang out and get stoned and talk about shit and I realized I was in love with him. One night I prayed that if ryan kissed me the next day that I would hold on to him forever and never let him go no matter how hard life ever got. I DO NOT take promises to god lightly and never have.
we have had many great years..we have had really hard years...we have grown up together into adulthood. I think one of the secrets is knowing that you will both change over time and accepting that fact. No one will be exactly the same as they were 20 years ago. You both have to work together and adapt to the harshness of life and be best friends. I put God 1st, Ryan 2nd and my kids 3rd. If I am doing right by god then I am doing right by Ryan. If Iam doing right by him then I am doing right by my kids.
You Have to hold on to your own personalities because that is what attracted you to each other in the first place. If you are married to a man who respects you the same as you respect him then chances are good you will have a great life together.
There have been VERY bad times we have gone through. We are by no means the "perfect" couple. We just learn from those times of heartache instead of dwelling on them or just giving up when shit gets hard. EVERYTHING happens for a reason it is up to us to pay attention to the reason.
Sorry for the longwinded answer
Anyway I know you r a great wife and are going to be a great mother. If you have baby questions when the little one arrives I will be more than happy to help. With the first and at your age it is soooo confusing and scary to have a child. It is an enormous change in your life and your relationship. In about 12 years you will be posting about your anniversary Im sure