Friends that disappoint
 

My good friend says he is too old to be in a band at 35 and is quitting on me. I think it is because he has a new girlfriend and doesn't want to be away from her even one night of the week. Go waste your life (and talent), at least you aren't wasting mine anymore.

Yeah, what a pussy. There's nothing worse than being muff before mates.

Lol!

:p



Anyway, what was it Dylan said - "you shouldn't let other people get your kicks for you?" - ultimately everyone will let you down if you depend too much on them for your own sense of well being.

Personally I'd rather fuck a girl than be in a band with your 128kbps hating ass.

"You mixed down the track to LESS THAN WAV QUALITY? You goatfucking cunt!"

perhaps he just truly felt he doesn't wanna be in a band anymore?

As long as we're on that subject . . .

Can someone mix down (and post) the Sonic Youth set from ATP this past weekend - to "MP3 Quality" and post the link here?

I hate playing bands most of the time; rehearsing, pulling your ass while everyone else is lazy, compromising sounds etc. I'm a lot more happy working away by myself. Though that's maybe because I've yet to find someone to play with that's on the same wavelength as I am (and is competent in what they play/can understand basic theory but that's a whole other argument).

http://www.megaupload.com/?d=ZPGJCNMW

At least I'm not the dumb shit that takes being handed a sample rate that was last legitimate 15 years ago. haha. FUCK THAT SHIT.

Not when his story changes from week to week. He loves music too much... I think he is just being a big, scared, sensitive, pussy.

Fuck it anyway... I'll just compose myself until I find musicians that have a backbone.

I guess everyone has experienced the feeling being let down by his/her friends. That's just the evolution of friendship. Sometimes they do something awesome that contradicts their disappointing behavior, sometimes it's better to walk the plank.

I like working by myself ok... but it usually turns into this masturbatory ego trip. It needs another persons point of view to take it to a better place. I went to school for audio engineering and know basic theory so I can definitely relate to having my time wasted by Craigslist people from the lazy depths of hell.

I tend to think girls make guys a little too wonky like that. In youth anyway, I don't know about at 35. All of my friends when they got girlfriends initially they effectively stopped hanging out with us for a long time.

The biggest case was the other half of my band in our senior year of high school. We would practice three or four times a week. Then after he met his girlfriend (who he later married, which was sweet) he would spend every nanosecond of time with her. Get up early in the morning, take his shower and then speed to her house and spend 35 minutes with her before school began. Lots of little things like that. He effectively ended our band for half a year because of that. He wouldn't ever hang out with us anymore until the summer. And even then at first it would be a struggle to get him to hang out for a couple of hours.

That whole year he'd do things like that that pissed me off haha. But whatever, I don't really blame her. I just tend to think girls make us (my friends at least) dumber than we already are.

I have another friend who would always rather play World of Warcraft than hang out with us. He was in one of the upper class raiding guilds and would always be on this schedule. Let me see if I can remember it. On tuesday and wednesday he raided 7-11. On thursday and friday he did heroics. Saturday he hung out with his girlfriend, took a day off Sunday (haha) and on monday he did battlegrounds or something. And on the days we would manage to get him out of his house to have lunch with us or something, he'd be pretty glued to his clock making sure he didn't miss his deadline to go home and raid. That was a pretty depressing year.

He's since quit and we see him a little more now. He still won't leave his house very much.

At this point of my life I wouldn't be in a band unless I had total control of it. There are too many responsibilities and all, I can sort of understand where he's coming from. I also understand why you'd be upset, but I hope that doesn't change your friendship.

Doesn't that happen to anyone? People wanna spend most of their free time around that person, at least for a while, it's only natural.

But regardless, I don't see a need to yoko this situation.

Thanks, stu :cool:

There is no such thing as total control of a band, unless it is a solo project.

Because my friend pre girlfriend is much different from now. It just sucks how relationships do that to people. And get this... he is 35 and the girl is 23. It is only a matter of time before it busts. Hopefully I will have something going before that so he can't try to come back.

Who at 35 keeps texting their girlfriend at every little break during practice? FUCK!

not exactly.

tho i do have a musical partner and we welcome collaborations, i can't have this "trying to please everyone weekly gathering" thing.

how old are you?