places to meet nice people?
 

i've attracted the wrong crowd my whole life and i'm really sick of it, if there's a tonne of nice people around everyone will ignore me except the biggest assholes around. i'm not perfect or nothing myself but this situation comes to aggravate me more and more. where the hell do y'all normal people do to meet other nice people? it's like i'm walking around with a sign on that scares decent people away but all the coked out sociopath's and people throwing stuff at homeless people and harassing women on the street will always talk to me when i don't want to.

normal?

you're in hell with all the other hungry ghosts.

there's nowhere to go for a reason.

consumer slaves can be better addicted to commodities and harvested for profits when they are isolated units, unable to organize collectively or even enjoy each others company in ways that don't require all their money to be wasted. people seem terrified of intimacy that isn't sexual or drug based or part of a job.

isolation afflicts everyone now, except the rich. i dont have a solution, and noone else does. if you were to say this somewhere more public you'd get lambasted with positive sounding "advice" meant to secretly scold you into getting a job/keeping appearances up somehow. like its all your fault.

being alone as we are today is unique in history and its not something the brain or body is built for. there really are no solutions. you could start hooking up with people online for sex, but theres all the stds and problems that come with that. you could become a drug addict, which is how most people deal with it.

i go for very long walks. if you have a dog, you can walk it a lot. you can get a bicycle (and a lock obviously cos it will be stolen) and go find spots to read books in. there's really no answer. we're all suffering in this way now.

I dunno. Really? I see people in pairs, both smiling. Restaurants full of happy, chatty tables. Dumbfucks getting married left and right. Well populated parties. What's up with all that?

As for the problem at hand, I can't imagine your insistent pimple popping is doing much for your social life. Maybe learn to control that?

i already have a bicycle and books, my dog is part of the wrong crowd as well and she's always starting fights so i have to walk her late and pick up poo in the dark

my problem isn't being bad at being alone, it's just that i don't like anyone i do meet. i see other people meeting normal people all the time and i end up meeting some cokehead who wants to fight me 5 minutes later

there's no way everybody has the same problem

fuck normal people.

what you want is to meet INTERESTING people.

all those fuckers you see paired up and partying and looking so happy are faking it.

I wouldn't consider myself or any of the people I like to have around me to be normal. In fact, I prefer people that are just my type of weird/fascinating. 'Nice' doesn't necessarily equal 'Normal'. As for places where you can find such people: There is no particular place!

Sucks to be a killjoy but I can only tell you to look around and be attentive. You might find them practising a hobby of yours while looking for groups of people that are into that as well. You might find them merely by chance. I've even met a nice person I nowadays enjoy to spend some quality time with while being intoxicated at a concert.

Life is arbitrary and so are the acquaintances you are going to make. Of course you should try to make a conscious move if you feel that things have to change. It's just impossible to make any suggestions that promise a winning strategy.

That said: Maybe try to reflect on what makes you feel comfortable, which situations you enjoy etc...
And then base your effort on these aspects. It can only work if it makes sense for you. And honesty is also never a bad thing when trying to find the right people.

If it's any consolation: I'm having trouble with the consistency of my acquaintanceships right now. I don't get to meet some of my dear old friends as often as I'd like anymore and many of the new people I meet are just part a passing phase. A sign of the times I guess.

Keep up the good intentions! Knowing is the first step.

dead_battery and Rob( i do know nice people but not any interesting people) said it better than i ever would in my lifetime. there's really no solution to this problem. it affects me too. this is why im 30 something and a complete dick. i tend to straddle line between satisfying my deviant wild needs and being the most straight lace person that i can be.

best advice is to just stay cool, find some niche and don't trivialize shit like this.

SERIOUSLY:

troof.


Antagon speaks some troof too. Just go out n do it. Lately I've been trying to be more open(because I felt I was in a similar rut)....it's weird...but I've been surprising myself lately like this....and well some people are dicks and it's ok to not want to have nothing to do with them....anyways...good luck man.




people are overrated.(rob i. helped with this too...sort of....you know with all that talk about greasy shits)

neither do i, and i meet tons of normals. i hate the normals! they are vectors of communicable stupidity.

gimme a good eccentric any day instead. even with all their neuroses.

BUT the good eccentrics really hide-- they don't advertise their condition with flashy piercings or special clothing that scream "luk at meeee". instead they cloak themselves in normal signifiers, so as not to get lynched by mobs. kinda like the stealth bomber. eccentricity is a tough gig.

anyway i'm sorry for your situation. i don't know where you live so i cannot recommend.

"My whole has been ruined by people who are nice."
-Morrissey, "Disappointed"

Make of that what you will.

"just a dead man walking throu the dead of night. it's impossible to wait until the light".

interesting posts in this thread




i use the term normal to mean simply somebody who doesn't go around looking for trouble and always finding it, just people who try to be moral. nothing to do with appearance or beliefs or anything, normal to me is meaning somebody that tries to have a decent life for themself and not fuck with anyone else. i'm not opposed to meeting people who are strange ,just not people who are always on drugs and looking for fights or something, people who will fuck up my life.

i can understand what you're talking about cloaking because i try to dress and act inconspicuously but i don't act or express myself like others and everyone notices i'm weird pretty fast

even people with morals try to fuck with you somehow or another.

"so and so doesnt' have morals" who really does?

yes, i know what you mean. criminal sociopaths-- users, abusers, assholes.

if you're attracting them, i don't know why. either they think you're like them or they see you as a potential mark. but that's just a guess-- i don't really know.

do you live in a tough neighborhood?

If you keep going to the same places and doing the same things, I'd venture to guess that you will continue to meet the same sort of people.

Once you start doing different things and going to new places (the sort of places you wouldn't normally go to), then you will have the opportunity to interact with a different set of people......some who you may or may not find to be intriguing.

^ = church

not at all, i was raised in a worse area, most bulgarian people are really negative and paranoid and that might be part of my problem, i think being an immigrant definitely makes things somewhat harder socially

yeah this is the obvious answer but i'm not religious so i'd really need to push myself to go regularly haha