I've found the girl of my dreams online
 

I joined one of those dating sites recently. Unlike most of them where joining is free, but actually contacting people requires a paid subscription, this one is totally free, almost like MySpace or Facebook. Anyway, normally I set my search parameters to search for girls aged 22 to 27, but for whatever reason my search criteria ended up getting erased and one day I ended up looking for girls aged 18 to 99. Not realizing this, I checked my match list and at the top was this beautiful 19 year old with short dark hair and glasses. I checked her profile and not only is she gorgeous, but she also sounds a lot like me! I sent her a message saying I'd like to chat sometime, but the site said she hasn't been online since the end of last month.

Fortunately, she listed her MySpace URL in her profile, so I was able to send her a friend request. She's accepted it, and I sent her a message thanking her for adding me, but I didn't feel comfortable asking her if she wanted to chat right away. At this point in time, MySpace has pretty much degraded to something many take for granted, so I'm not thinking it would be a good place to connect with someone. But she hasn't been on the dating site in a while, so she may never even see the message I sent her on there...

Any suggestions?

Don't send her a picture of your penis.

thats funny, one day a friend of mine asked me to take him to craig's list (i had never browsed it before) to look for a job.. I say whatever, and we check it out with a spliff..

he really just wanted to browse the personals..

it was a big laugh. this one chick in big bold print said "NO DICK SHOTS, PLEASE."
You know, I would never even think of sending a chick a picture of my dick but her challenge made even me want to do it, so I am sure her mailbox was just flooded with dicks, after all, she was asking for it with that one :)

was it okcupid.com? i'm on that site and it sucks bad. i went on a date with someone from there and it was just a bad time. she drank her beer like she had claws and she would lick the bottle for some reason. it grossed me out just watching her.

Oh wow, I felt the same way about something else just a second ago.

why do i only fall for 16 year old girls?

funny how this thread showed up. i recently joined one a few days ago. its a legit one and it's pretty cool how you can join for free and contact whoever you want to contact. so far, not so much luck.

i'm surprised to see a few hip chicks on there. but a lot of them are just these club-hopping, sports obsessed, sticky haired chicks i'd fuck and drop

My best female friend actually slept with a guy after he'd sent her two pictures of his (alarmingly pale, in my opinion) penis. I mean, what sort of message does that send out?!

But back to the issue at hand... a gay mate of mine recently met for the first time the boy of his dream whom he'd been speaking too online for about six years. They cried alot when they met for the first time, went back to his had sex instantly and then played videogames for the rest of the weekend. Kind of romantic in it's own weird way I think. Internet romance is not at all as seedy as alot of people think.

what sites are you people using where ya don't have to pay for? I won't deny I'm looking and could use some good sites

I'm surprised at how many of you need help in the love department. That's not very Indie.

anyway, you all keep us informed at how this kind of thing pans out, I'm interested to see if anyone decent can actually posses the internet.

haha. maybe.

haha.

Sexual frustrations make me such a hip guy.

I wish I could say the same thing.

a few of my friends have tried those things and it always turns out
that the person who seemed alright online is kind of a weirdo in real life.

One dodgy aspect of MySpace is that a lot of people just wanna rack up as many 'friends' as possible in order to appear 'popular'.

I dunno, take it s-l-o-w-l-y and suss her out a bit before sending her a picture of your johnson... Who knows, this may be troo luv.

what are these things you call "girls"?

There aren't any girls on the internet. Just guys and then some guys who are pretending to be girls.

is this her

don't get done over like this guy... http://www.kaotic.com/5975_His-Love-...ally-Over.html. very funny, those cheeky scousers.

"scousers?"

I just did a google image search for GIRL OF MY DREAMS

Liverpudlians.

terminal pharmacy: No, that's not her.

Actually, she responded to my message on the dating site (alright, it is OKCupid) and we've sent each other messages back and forth over the past few days...

And none of you seriously think I'm stupid enough to send her a pic of my dick, do you?

Tell her "TITS OR GTFO"

Well, I messaged her again last night and she didn't respond, and I know she was online today.

But, I'm giving her a week before I officially pull the plug.

/agree

Talking to people online is tricky. Since I have a tiny bit of time to kill until this porno finishes downloading, here's some of my random 'wisdom' on internet dating for those that might be interested.

Real advice:

Many people have gotten over the stigma of online dating, but still would like to treat it the same way they treat regular dating. Meaning, they treat sites like OkCupid like the new bar or hang-out spot. They make a profile on it in the same way they offer their presence in the physical space of the bar. They are merely showing up and are open to the idea of possibly meeting someone, but very few will wear that on their sleeve. You'd get kind of creeped out if a complete stranger in a bar walked up to you and said "Hey, you're cute and like Sonic Youth, let's go out." Even if they're attractive enough and potentially a cool person, ideally there will be some basic conversation and connection before such an idea is considered. The same goes for the internet. Don't just be all "Hey, want to get a drink some time?" to a chick on the internet.

Don't mention where things could go right away. Rather, let those things just go there on their own. Just like you would in real life (hopefully.) Who is more appealing to you upon first impression? The stranger that is over-eager to meet you, or the stranger that seems content on their own, but whom you could potentially meet? Eagerness can be confused with neediness. They don't go hand in hand by any means, but when it comes to dating many people have learned that one can definitely imply the other. People are more immediately attracted to others that don't seem so insistent. It gives the impression that they are content and confident, and that if you do interact with them there will be no pressure, things will be on an even plane, and things can flow more naturally.

All of that said, DO NOT form emotional or romantic attachments over the internet. I don't care how hot she is, how awesome she sounds, you have not met this person. She is not your dream girl. All you've seen is her profile... a few random angles of her appearance, some basic information about her, some impressions of her that she has created and would like to convey, and maybe a list of bands that she likes. At best, this is to be used as a spring-board. Use it to say "Ok, this person MIGHT be awesome" and decide to meet them based on it.

If the two of you are going back and forth and it's apparent that you both think the other MIGHT be cool, then meet as soon as you can, rather than just build things up that need to be torn down upon first meeting. When you do meet this person, expect them to be different. To look a little different, and to absolutely not reflect anything you built up in your head. Sometimes they're about what you expected, sometimes they're not quite what you expected, sometimes they're better, sometimes they are worse.

I've met a ton of people off of the internet. I generally find it best to have no expectations, that way thing don't get steered a certain way. I've formed romantic relationships off of the internet (some good, some bad), friendships (some good, some bad), fuck buddies (it's hard for pure sex to go very poorly)... and then there is the occassional one-time meeting that goes nowhere, which is fine too. I've only met one or two truly horrible people off of the internet, so my track record is really good.


Bad advice:

Send her a picture of your dick immediately. Let her know what she'll be working with. Ultimately, it's all a woman cares about. If she can get up on that thing or can see herself polishing it off once or twice a day, expect an immediate meeting. If she says some shit like "I didn't want that, I'm not interested in pictures of dicks, why did you do that?" she's lying and is just saying that so she can back out of it guilt-free. Chick just plain didn't want your action. But the golden rule is: all women care about and want in this world is dicks. Even lesbians.

I prefer the bad advice.

Too late, I banged her.

I think you'd be surprised how many men offer this up to us girls. :(

buwahaha:D

yeah me also
*yawn*

^^ she actually thanked me.
bah

Phoenix, did you get that picture I sent you?
I swear the camera angle makes it look smaller than it is, really!

She begged me to, but was too out of breath after wards.

yeah, my sex is so crazy

Some things I don't always understand about gay dating sites:

- You read a profile of a guy who says he has a boyfriend, he's happy with him etc, and then on his profile he has pictures of himself in a bubble-bath with his wanger afloat, or of him and his partner dressed in sexual attire.

- You read another guy's profile where he professes to be the thoughtful type, then the first thing they ask you is your body size, or if you have chest hair.

- A bit like the first thing, I don't get it when someone writes on their profile that they're not looking for anything, and then they have sexually explicit pictures up for everyone to see.

It's because they're gay