how do you gracefully and kindly tell someone to lose weight?
 

if someone is getting a bit portly and you think they should not have that slice of chocolate cheesecake and maybe not have fucking pancakes for breakfast or whatever what do you say to them in a nice way?

be optimistic about. dont make it a weight or appearance issue, make it one of positive health. Dont criticize the faults, offer positive alternatives.

Asshole answer:


Serious answer:
Weight issues are very very touchy. If you share living arrangements with this person, you should probably start be setting a good example yourself and try to get them involved in some sort of exercise regime that you yourself participate in as well. Drinking loads of water and standard exercise works wonders.

you dnt have to say a word... this little beauty should do the trick for you

What about "Hey fat bastard, what about losing weight? You look like

er no "don't do this at home"

be careful..

maybe the same way you tell someone they're too skinny.

not the same, being so skinny is equally dangerous to the health, but far less humiliating to have attention drawn upon. being overweight is a deeply personal problem people deal with, and when people offer suggestions it appears as criticism no matter how you slice it, which offends and hurts. in our society being overweight is commonly associated with personal ineptitude and even laziness..

Being a 200 pound plus guy...I'm active, I play sports, I eat healthy.
My doctor never finds anything wrong with me other than the weight. Blood is good, cholesterol is good, heart is healthy - I enjoy life and I'm a big guy.

Ask yourself: Is the reason strictly cosmetic or is the person's health truly at stake?

don't say anything. It is not yr concern.
If it is a loved one, just tell them you are concerned about their health, but to tell someone this just because they are chunking out is pointless and will only cause trauma.

This.

not necessarily Rob, we in Rastafari identify a major source of social ills and spiritual bankruptcy as stemming from the unstoppable realm of DIETARY LAWLESSNESS which is America.

You can not just eat whatever you want for whatever reason you want, just as your car doesn't run on bourbon and your cat does not eat leaves.

The human body as specific requirements, and many of things we eat in abundance are wrongfully called "FOOD".

that fits in if it is a loved one whose health you care about, but calling someone out for getting fat is not going to go well, it will be seen as mean and spiteful, and could cause unnecesary issues.

of course, hence

my cat used to eat leaves and then barf them up

Tell them you're looking for a jogging partner, and say you'd like it to be them.

exactly.

"gid ov yer azz"

this was Dr. Zorba's (NPR) answer to the exact same question this week.

Get them into meth.

well first it has to be established that it's any of your motherfucking business what another person choses to eat-- like, say, it's your minor child.

in that case, ask his/her pediatrician.

on the other hand, if you just wanna butt in, there's no "graceful & kind" way, and it becomes a cost/benefit calculation.

lay off it fatty!

one of my friends' friend's... boyfriend.. okay my friend is a girl, her friend is a gay male..

the boyfriend of the guy friend told her 'arent you fat enough already' when she picked up the spoon to reach for the icecream. WTF Mr Bitchy Pants?!

Imho you dont have any biznez telling someone they are overweight unless you are their personal trainer or doctor.. their parter and its a medical issue? I think these are the only two/three reasons I could possibly justify as it being okay. Its not yr body so its not yr biz.

oh yeh I guess you could get them hooked on class A's if you were really THAT desperate to interfere with their body/lifestyle. Tho, that is probably more damaging than any minor weight problem.

Serve them the entire fucking cake and then when they take only one slice, say "Oh, is that all?"

Telling them to get into sports is a good one - running is sehr gut and free, and for the ladies, I hear that rollerderby is mucho fun. Swimming is nice and relaxing too, and cycling also (I cycle pretty much every day to and from work - an hour's exercise a day right there).

If you mean a booze-fat person suggest they drink less. If they are a food-fat person, tell them to eat less junk and walk more.

When greeting this person, ask "who's your friend?"

I've not been skinny since I was 8 years old. I wouldn't say I've ever been fat but I've always been a sorta slow bulky person. Adds to my character says some people.

And I'm not UNHEALTHY exactly so I'm fine with myself right now.

I told my bf last night that he is getting a little chubby, and I think I need to loose a little, too, and that we should start working out together. He sort of just agreed, and said nothing more about it, but today, it seemed he was bothered.

So, don't ask me, I guess.