Originally Posted by !@#$%!

oh. well again hm in these matters i think the vibe you put out is more important than pure looks (there is no such thing as "pure" looks). of course people who act phony just to make themselves what they think is more attractive in the eyes of others are vomitory and should be shot. for me personality+brains are #1 definitely but that's not the case for most men---but then most men are idiots and i'm not their spokesman-- i'm just a weirdo-- just... be patient i guess? quality >> quantity when it comes to meeting people anyway.

Originally Posted by nicfit

Looks like this thread is turning into a "support dumped nice girls club,if you will" thing.

Originally Posted by gmku

Men are scum. You don't deserve that--especially the cheated on part.
Is that part of single life, though? I remember when I was single, unless my dating partner and I were really getting serious, that I was always a bit unsure if my partner dating another guy was considered okay in the single world, or if it was cheating. If you're committed, e.g., living together or talking about marriage, etc., that's one thing, of course--cheating's definitely out. But what are the supposed rules when you're dating? I never really did figure it out--and there were plenty of times in that status where I also got cheated on, and even in those cases where we hadn't reached the "serious" stage, it still hurt pretty bad to find out that the person you were interested in obviously wasn't interested enough in you to be exclusive.

Originally Posted by screamingskull

the majority of you men are saying "slim but not anorexic, too skinny is not attractive, i like some curves"

Well thats me, and i NEVER get asked out! and if i do i get cheated on! maybe sonic youth fans are different to normal people.

Originally Posted by screamingskull

well i it's hard to say what my personality is like, i guess again im just like Enid Coleslaw. I'm an art student(i study photography), im funny and creative and i love music, I have lots of friends so i think im okay. deep down im not very happy. i dont think this comes across to people though.

Originally Posted by screamingskull

like that such a loss to the board. and i never said i was dumped, i was cheated on.

Originally Posted by screamingskull

I know that eventually i will meet some one thats right for me blah blah blah blah blah. But for now it all just seems like bullshit, All men i know are assholes who like anorexic women and even treat them like shit. And even if they were more attracted to curvy girls they would still date stick insects to fit in. You see here, its hip and cool to be an asshole and treat girls like shit.

Originally Posted by Cantankerous

currently i'm rocking the waif look but with tits. if you'd like to know i'm 5'9" and 117 lbs. although i used to be considerably heavier at about 140 lbs.

the girl on the left is so obviously sucking it in and they're both standing in a way that would make their ribcage or spine protrude.

Originally Posted by EMMAh

Hahah I've got big boobs too. They're probably about 50% of my weight.

Originally Posted by gmku

I hope that never happens to me!

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

well enid was very cool but had serious issues, i think, with depression, in a bad way, and suicidal urges.

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

i don't like anorexic women. in fact, i don't even like the sight of ribs sticking out, they give me the willies in a very primal way. now, for what you describe of the men you know, it seems to me that you're hanging out with the wrong kind of people, ha ha, if that's all you see? but anyway, you're in art school-- if all else fails, you can always try your hand with women :p.

Originally Posted by nicfit

Yeh, I was just being silly SS, sorry if my comment offended you in some way...( now I'm serious).

Originally Posted by screamingskull

thats kinda what i was hinting at by likening myself to her. Im alright now, have somone who i met on here (i wont name names) that i talk to about this regularly, and he's really helped me through some stuff. I think it will always be a problem for me as its the place my head goes to when smething bad happens. Its like if i dont want to do something i wont think of ways to solve that problem i will write away go to thinking about killing myself to get out of it.

Originally Posted by screamingskull

mmmmmm, maybe, ha ha, im hoping things will change when i get to University.

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

well good thing to have someone to talk about this stuff. being a teenager sucks because you believe that you have to conform to other people's expectations or else you don't deserve to live or something like that. but if you learn to enjoy who you are you'll eventually find a lot of fun stuff to do & people to be with. the world is full of happy, successful eccentrics. the myth of the suffering, starving artist is actually quite damaging...

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

most definitely. but even outside college you will find places where outsiders & unusual characters are welcome. this board for one thing is a lot better than most internet places, ha ha ha-- the eccentricity ratio is quite high.