I think common ground on aesthetics is very important. I would hate to be one of those married couples where the husband has a small room in the basement that's his little "lair," and is the only place where his interests and personality can be manifested in a house where it's nothing but cozies and doilies everywhere else. I have seen this scenario time and again, and it weirds me out every time.

yes! Exactly!!

that scenario in my opinion is a result of a submissive personality rather than of a lack of common ground.

I don't know about that. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to hook up with somebody who thought cozies and doilies were reasonable choices in home decor.

All this time I've spent cultivating a Sonic Youth obsession, and now I find out Clone doesn't like doilies. :rolleyes:

oh yes, I agree with you, and supposedly every human being with a grain of salt in mind should "choose" wisely his/her other half... I mean, common ground in aesthetics is a "conditio sine qua non" for you, for those guys who ends up living reclused in a basement most likely it wasn't THAT important at first, but then they should stood up and impose some sort of limits to heir other half instead of living in such a aesthetically dictatorial environment.
edit: to SC.

You probably make doilies in the shape of the E.N. "Mensch."

no way, i bet they're shaped like haus der lüng.

Well I don't find anything wrong with having a lair, all my stuff ends up in the same place anyways. But I'd hate the feeling that it "has to."