I think you should give it a shot dude. Personally, when I'm longing for a relationship, I masturbate. As soon as I cum, I reflect on these desires again. Do I still want a girlfriend? Am I still interested in the person I've been talking to? If I am, maybe I have something. But 99% of the time I realize that I don't really want anything at all.

My point is it's really easy to confuse sex with love, and the desire for sex with emotional need. Sometimes getting laid is enough to put us back where we need to be. And getting laid is also a good way to clean your palette. I'm usually not over a girlfriend completely until I've slept with someone new.

lol, damn. now i can only wonder what the original reply was

Good point, amerikangod.

Really, the sex with my ex-old lady was great, but I loved a LOT of things about her aside from that, so I dunno. Sex is just sex. It's a cheesy thing for me to say, but yeah. I dunno. I jerk off and want to cry, I think I said that elsewhere. Nothing feels good at the moment.

*takes some antidepressants*

Oh bullshit. There are many different types of humans, and the sugar addicted average Americans are only a minority. I love bitter. Sure sometimes bittersweet. Give me a greyhound with a lime over any foofy sugar drink with an umbrella in it any day. And I could probably snort Aztec chocolate and totally love the way it burned the back of my throat.

davenotdead:

pm'd

Read my fucking followup (pussy)

thread got so OT

i think rikang makes a good point, but i don't think it needs to be sex. just some emotional involvement/common ground with a new girl... it takes longer than sex, but it holds more weight imo. i can't say how you felt about the new girl of course, but i wish you hadn't broken it off so soon

so your 'true' state of mind is only the 5 minutes of thought you have post jizz? haha

This post devastates me because I feel like I'm starting to get over her, and then I read this and realize I'd jump in front and take the bullet to save her. Fuuuuuuuck!

at least new girl knows where she stands though?

I dunno, she sounded kinda cool though adam.

Fuck, you're totally right. I'm sorry everyone, I implore you to all remember that I am a terrible man of sorts. And please, please, please, don't stop thinking of my dick.

(Psssst. In that case it's not quite as selfish, given the basic architecture for an equal arrangement being in place. But, that said, if she's out getting laid you need to do it too. Forget a suitable partner, just let it be anyone if you don't have the energy. At the very least you'll feel like you're on equal footing again and not the one getting the raw end of the deal. And I don't mean that you should approach this in a spiteful sort of way. Just get yours. And of course, as you said, protecting your son should always factor into all of this.)

Are you guys all still thinking of my dick? THANK FUCKING GOD, because I depend on it. I'm like motherfucking Tinkerbell. You all need to clap and cheer and send my dick good vibes. Or. else. I. Will. Vanish. Into. Thin. Air.

O.k., so I read this whole damn thing now:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occupational_therapy

and I still don't know what is meant by the "occupation" part! Like, a job? A calling? An invasion?

Or did you just mean "Off Topic", because honestly, my relationship right now does seem like pulling teeth.

haha I just meant off topic

though it is fairly similar to a bar-side therapy talk.

i'd take a bullet for anyone, but i don't have much to live for.

hahaha. sorry dude. that does suck then. damn. i kind of know what you mean though... [just not that advanced a relationship... and i can still think of a few girls that i'd probably take a bullet for]

That's my problem. I do have plenty to live for, and my self esteem is totally in tact. So why does this one person still have that power over me? I think I'm getting over it, but it pisses me off that I still have a ways to go.

I fucking kissed her tonight as she left to go sleep with (and this brings it all on topic!) a guy with bad teeth!

20 conversations at once!

Re: New Girl. She was wanting to get back with her black boyfriend anyway (I only mention his ethnicity because I find it amusing to me... it's a long story... shall I go ahead and say it? Her first boyfriend was known around town as having a HUGE dick, so was her second boyfriend, then she's with a black dude, and then of course.. well, I've posted about my dick plenty... how does she keep going out with big-dick dudes? Kinda funny!). But yeah. We'll probably go out again, for real, um.. eventually.

I'm not saying that getting your dong wet will make you forget about the things you loved about her, just that it'll give you a fresh start by creating a break. Sex is just sex, and bread might just be bread, but a palette cleanser is a fucking palette cleanser.



If this goes well then it can make you excited and supplant the old feelings and make you forget your woes by replacing them with something new, but if it's not something awesome then it won't do much to create that necessary break. A sweet blowie behind a bodega or some doggystyle on a neighborhood girl's couch... that'll give you the break you'll need. Also, you'll feel like a true dude.


At the very least it's the most unclouded state of mind. Everything else is riddled with hormones. Sex. Violence. Everything I do and think is shaped by these things and inexorably linked. Until I cum. Then I'm free for five minutes.

After I cum (and cry), I pull my pants up and post on here.

YOU GUYS ARE READING MY CUMMY WORDS RIGHT NOW

Enough! Im getting even more depressed about my situation!
I have mono and cant even go make out with new chicks, I lay around resting all day and thinking about my old girl, who is clearly moved on and told me "I cant have her back and I need to get over it or I'll be miserable"...nice one, thanks!

I dont have any new girls lined up, and most girls in cincy are gross or half retarded....so that means I have to go out and actually meet new chicks...but I get bored with them because my last one was basically the female version of me and Im very narcisistic! What I mean is, she painted, she sang, she played guitar, she was intelligent, she was an outsider, she was weird and dressed weird and I cant find that in anyone else right now so I lose interest...and I was used to being alone, I was along for awhile before I met my current ex, but we connected so deep and the sex was so good I dont think I can be alone again, or I dont know how...Im too addicted to the emotional and the physical...

The only chick I almost fucked was a friend of a friend and I found out (before I fucked her thank god) that she has a huge jock boyfriend and a nice VD! haha...thank god I passed that one by...

I'm losing my mind. Pretty sure...yep there it goes.

Dead_Air, none of my business, but why do you allow the extra relationship? Are you trying to be progressive and laid back and tolerant? Was there some kind of ultimatum where if you dont put up with her desires then the entire world changes?

It doesnt sound like youre too happy with the situation. Sorry for that.

*joins okcupid.com*

Sorry adam, I must clarify: Why do you cry ? Are you upset over your losses? Or do you feel a disconnect between your physical orgasm and your mind, like youre not even there to enjoy it? or?

^^Because he has to do it himself now and there is noone there to enjoy the special moment with the special men...

Btw, after reading my post and most of yr posts...we're all a bunch of pussies and I make myself sick...

Not me. 100% beefcake dude.

Cumming reminds me of my x-girlfriend.

I dunno if I ever said this, but I never jerked off before I met a girl. I came the first time I got a handjob for the first time. In fact, I didn't jack off until I was.. um.. 16 or so, so nearly 2 years later! I dunno why. I spent a good year making up for the time lost haha. But yeah honestly in the past 7 years, I've jerked off very rarely, solo -- I've always had a girl to do it for me (that sentence sounds kinda bad but I don't know how else to word it -- but yeah the pleasure was mutual, I was getting them/her off too).

So I guess I associate cumming with being with her. And it's just not the same. It just feels... wrong to me. Not that it IS wrong, it just feels weird. Like I'm not even there to enjoy it.. yeah, that sounds about right.

I'm not a pussy.

I pretty well answered that in the rest of the thread. Our relationship is probably really over, it seems that way right now. I'm not allowing anything, just figuring out the easiest way out of a huge financial mess and breaking it to all of the family, and protecting our son.

Meanwhile we do sleep together and find ourselves kissing and saying I love you. I don't think sex is too likely, but I also am experiencing that whatever I think is going on will likely seem totally different tomorrow. I'm more interested in spending the energy going after other people than her though, and that's a major change in me as of about nine days ago (and it was kind of overnight then).

So it's time to make new associations.

Start with some tasty latina's ass.

I can't sing for shit or play guitar well(I keep wanting to find a boyfriend who will teach me) but I do all the others. My drumming is alright and I have a host of other nonsensical talents.

how's that?

I'd teach you how to play a power chord.

I'd teach you how to play rusty trombone.

Ah, apologies Dead-Air, when I'd backtracked I'd only noticed a lot about sugar.

Hmmm Hmmm, you actually have the energy to pursue other women ?
Yeah, youre definitely in one of lifes major gray points, where you adore someone and have strong bonds with someone, but somehow you're going someplace else.

How important is sex in your relationship, if you dont mind me asking? I mean, could you allow strong bonds to exist but have a wandered sexual compatibility, or is that kind of bond a true necessity ?

I'd teach her how not to play a power chord! If you can drum you can guitar, as a guitar should be played like a drum.

yr a sweetheart :-)

I've been taught little things by lots of people but always forget them when I'm by myself. As soon as someone is sitting next to me and telling me again I half remember. I was just never meant to understand the concept I think. Unless there is some mathematical way to understand it that no one has bothered to show me yet.

are you talking about your dick again?

Phoenix : its the guys that want to seduce you with a guitar that you should kick in the face and nuts simultaneously, chun-li style, I'll tell you right there. Not that you asked, sorry.

Adam : Ahh...thats pretty heavy. It is. Its sacred, even if you dont want it to be. But you know, you could burn everything you know to the ground and sorta "take it back", so to say. Make it all your own. Otherwise you'll be willingly shackling yourself to her, maybe to preserve her. But that hurts you, or, one of the most private things a person can do.