Yes.

yes.

I could love someone who doesn't love them, but I would find it hard to love someone who hated my music taste in general. I remember I went out with this guy when I was a teenager who asked me what I liked to listen to, and when I told him he didn't actually know any of the bands I mentioned. So he just asked me to bring in a tape of my favourite band I brought in one of SY's, when he heard it he said it sounded shit cause it was too weird. You can imagine I wasn't impressed when someone just dismisses something just cause they think it's different. So yeah the moral of the story is that I can't get along with someone who doesn't at least sympathise a bit with my 'weird' taste in music.

haha. you can't choose who you love.

although you can choose whether to follow your heart or not. In which case, yes, I would love whoever I loved if they didn't like Sonic Youth.

not loving someone because they don't love one certain band that you do is incredibly immature.

i do think it's important to have similarities in what you like to listen to... otherwise car trips etc would be hell, but dude.. there's a fucktons of bands out there and there's always a happy medium.

Because Paulybee posted the same remark on the previous page, I feel justified in repeating it:

How fucking shallow??????

haha yeh what a ridiculous question

my gf likes SY, she doesnt know much about them but she has a few albums and enjoys their tunes

but i dont think i even thought about SY when i was thinking getting involved in a relationship with her

so my answer is YES

Congrats on hitting 4, 000 Dan.

I could. That said, I have actually broken off more than one relationship based solely on musical taste. I know this is shallow, but I don't care. Ms. new "country" music was a good fuck, but I could not handle having to suffer Toby Keith. I thought I was going to fucking die. She is lucky I did not punch her in her stupid face.

Of course. In fact none of the guys I ever went out with liked Sonic Youth, except for one, even though he doesn't care much about them. The majority of my friends don't care or particularly like Sonic Youth either.

Too funny. Basing a relationship on liking or disliking a band??? Maybe in general it's good to like the same kinds of music. But then what if tastes change? What if you stop liking Sonic Youth or get into other things? For example, my wife really didn't like much of the "alternative" stuff I liked in teh 80s and early 90s but now she does. Because people do change in this regard, I think a relationship should be based on something a little broader, deeper.

I love a girl who loves Ella Fitzgerald, old jazz like that, and world music. Nuff said.

That's cool. That's real cool. It's fun to have differences. You teach each other.

That's a very good point. An ex of mine used to play Belle and Sebastaian so much that I ended up liking them a lot. We never really talked about them or music much in general, and he never forced them onto me or anything. He just happened to play them on a regular basis, making them more present in my life and forcing me to listen to their lyrics more. I like it when that happens because it's a totally natural process.

I'll pretend I didn't read that.^

I would never base my relationship with someone by the music they listen to. Totally absurd and ignorant.

I despised my wife's Fleetwood Mac albums a long time ago and now I love them.

well, i do.

Yeah. To love everything else about them but not being able to stay with them because they don't like a band is somewhat Seinfeld-esque if you ask me.

This would mean you are both TOTAL SQUARES, and thus made for each other.

i said it before, but again... i think there has to be some common ground. but one band is ONE band. that's not a fucking deal breaker.

I think common ground on aesthetics is very important. I would hate to be one of those married couples where the husband has a small room in the basement that's his little "lair," and is the only place where his interests and personality can be manifested in a house where it's nothing but cozies and doilies everywhere else. I have seen this scenario time and again, and it weirds me out every time.

yes! Exactly!!

that scenario in my opinion is a result of a submissive personality rather than of a lack of common ground.

I don't know about that. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to hook up with somebody who thought cozies and doilies were reasonable choices in home decor.

All this time I've spent cultivating a Sonic Youth obsession, and now I find out Clone doesn't like doilies. :rolleyes:

oh yes, I agree with you, and supposedly every human being with a grain of salt in mind should "choose" wisely his/her other half... I mean, common ground in aesthetics is a "conditio sine qua non" for you, for those guys who ends up living reclused in a basement most likely it wasn't THAT important at first, but then they should stood up and impose some sort of limits to heir other half instead of living in such a aesthetically dictatorial environment.
edit: to SC.

You probably make doilies in the shape of the E.N. "Mensch."

no way, i bet they're shaped like haus der lüng.

Well I don't find anything wrong with having a lair, all my stuff ends up in the same place anyways. But I'd hate the feeling that it "has to."